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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 13926" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I don't think a new 1:1 is needed, I think the Special Education teacher needs to go back to school. Certainly needs to read the file and listen to the 1:1. And you. And the principal.</p><p></p><p>While you're getting her to do some reading, print out the stuff from Early Childhood on TEC and make her read that as well.</p><p></p><p>I hope you kept a copy of your notes to us on your own file on difficult child at home - if you're certain of her exact words, put them in quote marks in your file. At some future stage you may want her to eat them.</p><p></p><p>Some Special Education teachers are fabulous - most, in my experience. But I've encountered a few, including one who thankfully was not directly teaching difficult child 3, who I really wonder about. The one who wasn't teaching difficult child 3 - she badly mishandled not only difficult child 1 but another young friend of ours, who she labelled as a huge problem when his mother came to complain to her of her treatment of this boy. I was there to back the mother up in an incident which had involved me - the teacher neatly deflected the mother by claiming, "And he's been a problem all year, refuses to work especially with other kids, is sneaky, he's lying and I just can't trust him." So instead of being angry with the teacher, the mother went home to ream out her son.</p><p>Then, after he protested his innocence, she belatedly remembered to check his half-yearly report (issued a month previously) which, in the teacher's own handwriting, declared what a cooperative, helpful, lovely child he was.</p><p>Basically, a Special Education-trained teacher lied about a student (badly lied) in order to deflect a parent's wrath over a bad mishandling of an incident. And subsequent to that incident, my volunteer work at the school was cut short. "Your services are no longer needed." because I knew the truth about not only the iincident, but the mishandling.</p><p></p><p>So always remember - Special Education training doesn't always make for a Special Education teacher. Sometimes it just gives them more education. They then have to use it. Some don't. They give a bad name to all those wonderful teachers who DO help the kids in their care. And I do think that aides are unsung heroes, in many cases - they have to be at the coalface with these kids but get little recognition for it and often, little or no support if they happen to be working for a Special Education teacher who isn't really considering Special Education needs.</p><p></p><p>Sharon, I'd be keeping a close eye on this teacher.</p><p></p><p>And finally, a point from my own difficult child 1, from yesterday - his paed is trying to get him to cut back his ad. difficult child 1 has tried but found that he felt more in control on his current low dose. Then he thought some more and said, "Maybe I couldn't cut it out completely because at the time I was having trouble with the course I was doing and it was very stressful, I felt I needed some of the ad to cope because I felt too bad without any."</p><p>And it could be so. difficult child 1 took months to taper back and every so often would try to cut back on that last tiny bit - he just feels too edgy without it, unless he's on holidays.</p><p></p><p>So your difficult child is likely to be a bit more stressed than usual, with a Special Education teacher like this. The last thing he needs is his anxiety aggravating her problems. He's the one that will suffer for it. I think you're doing the right thing putting him back on a small amount. I would consider weaning him off next long holidays and see how he is then. He may be like my difficult child 1 - needing a small dose just to help him hold it together (which they increasingly do for themselves).</p><p></p><p>I still can't get over her chiding him for facial expressions!!??! Where did she get her qualifications? Or does she have some warped idea of ODD being permanent and needing strict, harsh handling? And seeing ODD under every classroom chair?</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 13926, member: 1991"] I don't think a new 1:1 is needed, I think the Special Education teacher needs to go back to school. Certainly needs to read the file and listen to the 1:1. And you. And the principal. While you're getting her to do some reading, print out the stuff from Early Childhood on TEC and make her read that as well. I hope you kept a copy of your notes to us on your own file on difficult child at home - if you're certain of her exact words, put them in quote marks in your file. At some future stage you may want her to eat them. Some Special Education teachers are fabulous - most, in my experience. But I've encountered a few, including one who thankfully was not directly teaching difficult child 3, who I really wonder about. The one who wasn't teaching difficult child 3 - she badly mishandled not only difficult child 1 but another young friend of ours, who she labelled as a huge problem when his mother came to complain to her of her treatment of this boy. I was there to back the mother up in an incident which had involved me - the teacher neatly deflected the mother by claiming, "And he's been a problem all year, refuses to work especially with other kids, is sneaky, he's lying and I just can't trust him." So instead of being angry with the teacher, the mother went home to ream out her son. Then, after he protested his innocence, she belatedly remembered to check his half-yearly report (issued a month previously) which, in the teacher's own handwriting, declared what a cooperative, helpful, lovely child he was. Basically, a Special Education-trained teacher lied about a student (badly lied) in order to deflect a parent's wrath over a bad mishandling of an incident. And subsequent to that incident, my volunteer work at the school was cut short. "Your services are no longer needed." because I knew the truth about not only the iincident, but the mishandling. So always remember - Special Education training doesn't always make for a Special Education teacher. Sometimes it just gives them more education. They then have to use it. Some don't. They give a bad name to all those wonderful teachers who DO help the kids in their care. And I do think that aides are unsung heroes, in many cases - they have to be at the coalface with these kids but get little recognition for it and often, little or no support if they happen to be working for a Special Education teacher who isn't really considering Special Education needs. Sharon, I'd be keeping a close eye on this teacher. And finally, a point from my own difficult child 1, from yesterday - his paed is trying to get him to cut back his ad. difficult child 1 has tried but found that he felt more in control on his current low dose. Then he thought some more and said, "Maybe I couldn't cut it out completely because at the time I was having trouble with the course I was doing and it was very stressful, I felt I needed some of the ad to cope because I felt too bad without any." And it could be so. difficult child 1 took months to taper back and every so often would try to cut back on that last tiny bit - he just feels too edgy without it, unless he's on holidays. So your difficult child is likely to be a bit more stressed than usual, with a Special Education teacher like this. The last thing he needs is his anxiety aggravating her problems. He's the one that will suffer for it. I think you're doing the right thing putting him back on a small amount. I would consider weaning him off next long holidays and see how he is then. He may be like my difficult child 1 - needing a small dose just to help him hold it together (which they increasingly do for themselves). I still can't get over her chiding him for facial expressions!!??! Where did she get her qualifications? Or does she have some warped idea of ODD being permanent and needing strict, harsh handling? And seeing ODD under every classroom chair? Marg [/QUOTE]
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