Indigo Child?? Feedback appreciated

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by Tanya M, Jan 31, 2015.

  1. Tanya M

    Tanya M Living with an attitude of gratitude Staff Member

    My son just sent me a private message on FB telling me he's an Indigo Child and wants to know what I think. He said it fits him to a T. I am always leery when he asks me any kind of question because past experience has been that he wants to engage me in a debate.
    I Googled it and have copied below what I found. After reading this all I could think of is this is a really good excuse for my son to use to explain away his defiant behavior. It reminds me of a couple of things the first being it's cult like and also very "hippy" "flower child".

    I am a Christian and this line of thinking goes against what I have learned studying the Bible. My son has told me before that he's an atheist and is adamant in trying to convince me that God does not exist. I once asked him "why is it so important for you to convince me to not believe in something you don't believe in?" His response was "you're just blind and naïve and stupid"

    I know my response to him needs to be very short as I will not allow him to draw me into a debate about my faith. Would appreciate some feedback. Thanks!!

    What are the behavioral patterns of Indigos?

    1. They are born feeling and knowing they are special and should be revered.
    2. An indigo knows they belong here as they are and expect you to realize it as well.
    3. These children are more confident and have a higher sense of self-worth.
    4. Absolute authority, the kind with no choices, negotiation, or input from them does not sit well. The educational system is a good example.
    5. Some of the rules we so carefully followed as children seem silly to them and they fight them.
    6. Rigid ritualistic systems are considered archaic to an indigo child. They feel everything should be given creative thought.
    7. They are insightful and often have a better idea of method then what has been in place for years. This makes them seem like "system busters."
    8. Adults often view an indigo as anti-social unless they are with other indigos. Often they feel lost and misunderstood, which causes them to go within.
    9. The old control methods like, "Wait till your father gets home," have no affect on these children.
    10. The fulfillment of their personal needs is important to them, and they will let you know.
    Are you or your children an indigo?

    These are the characteristics of an indigo as stated in The Care and Feeding of Your Indigo Child:

    • Strong willed
    • Born in 1978 or later
    • Headstrong
    • Creative, with an artistic flair for music, jewelry making, poetry, etc.
    • Prone to addictions
    • An "old soul" as if they’re 13 going on 43
    • Intuitive or psychic, possibly with a history of seeing angels or deceased people
    • An isolationist, either through aggressive acting-out, or through fragile introversion
    • Independent and proud, even if they’re constantly asking you for money
    • Possess a deep desire to help the world in a big way
    • Wavers between low self-esteem and grandiosity
    • Bores easily
    • Has probably been diagnosed as having ADD or ADHD
    • Prone to insomnia, restless sleep, nightmares, or difficulty/fear of falling asleep
    • Has a history of depression, or even suicidal thoughts or attempts
    • Looks for real, deep, and lasting friendships
    • Easily bonds with plants or animals.
    If you possess 14 or more of these traits you are an indigo. If 11 to 13, you’re probably an indigo in training. If you’re an adult with these traits you could be a "lightworker."

    So what would an ideal Indigo's world look like?

    Indigos have a job to do on this planet, and they WILL do it. It’s their job to help eliminate the values of the world age that just passed in 2012, and replace them with the values of the new world age. They take their job very seriously, even if they are not aware of it. They are preparing the world for the new values of "love, brotherhood, unity and integrity." Indigo prophecies talk about how these special children are the forerunners to dramatically changing the word for the next Great Cycle change in the area of 2012. Forgiveness towards others is a key element to help heal the earth. An indigo’s world would be:

    1. Free from all harsh chemicals.
    2. Food would be organically grown, locally grown, fresh with minimal processing and refining.
    3. Education would be for all and children would have a much greater say in their educational future and curriculum.
    4. Family would mean whom you are with at that time, and be inclusive to a greater circle of people.
    5. Our political system would be truly for the greater good of all, much more democratic, even socialist.
    6. All countries and all people would work together to better the lives on the entire planet.
    7. Nature and her needs would come first including clean air and soil.
    8. Children would be treated with respect and consulted on any decisions that would affect them.
    9. All people would be equal no matter what their race, color, sex, or creed.
  2. SuZir

    SuZir Well-Known Member

    I'm familiar with the concept because I used to know someone who was sure her kid was an indigo child. New age stuff, mostly harmless way of being little more unique and special snowflake than the next one. (Sorry, I tend to be bit sceptic.)

    How to respond to him should depend of if he does believe on New age stuff (I mean, you need to show some respect to people's religion even when it is not your own) or if he just wants to be a bit more special and feel superior and at the same time have an excuse, why he hasn't really done much to be superior. If it would be my Insolent Whelp (though New Age stuff would be so not him, that I would likely be very worried about his mental health in reality) I would likely go so low, that I would make some comments about smurfs and other blue little folk.

    But I guess that "How exciting, honey! I hope it helps you to find your place in this world!" would work just as fine and not be as snarky.
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  3. Tanya M

    Tanya M Living with an attitude of gratitude Staff Member

    Thanks SuZir!! Love this
  4. ForeverSpring

    ForeverSpring Well-Known Member

    I read about it years and years and years ago when 37 was a toddler and I thought he may have ADHD. I was told to read a book called "The Indigo Child." I don't recall all of it, but I think it was about how some people are still wired to be like the olden days...the Wild, Wild West etc. I didn't buy it. I still don't. I have a lot of New Age interests and that doesn't jive with anything I've ever touched. There is no politicizing in the book I read. Just an explanation about some people have not evolved to the same level. No mention that they are better people, but perhaps the concept has changed since then. A theory that the author did not convince me was valid.

    I agree that if Son thinks that's what he is, why ruin his joy at feeling he fits in and if more were like him, the world would be a better place? (Are you giggling too?)

    I guess he is trying to normalize his behavior and wants you to agree with him (shrug and eye roll).
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  5. Tanya M

    Tanya M Living with an attitude of gratitude Staff Member

    Thanks MWM. Yes, shrug and eye roll for sure!!:crazy2:
  6. AppleCori

    AppleCori Well-Known Member

    Special and should be revered just for existing?

    Sounds like my G G F--and every two year old I've ever known.
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  7. AppleCori

    AppleCori Well-Known Member

    Oh, wait--

    no fast food, junk food or chemicals (drugs)?

    That leaves out MY difficult child.
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  8. AppleCori

    AppleCori Well-Known Member

    So, why can't we born-before-78-ers be Indigo Children?

    Though I confess I haven't really ever bonded with A PLANT.
  9. AppleCori

    AppleCori Well-Known Member

    Of course, SuZir is right--'how exciting, hope this works out for you, blah, blah, blah...'

    But I would have such a hard time not teasing him about it for the next decade or so!
  10. Tanya M

    Tanya M Living with an attitude of gratitude Staff Member

    I really think he's happy to have found something to validate his behavior that way he can continue on not bearing any responsibility for his actions, he's just a poor victim of being Indigo. Did that sound sarcastic??
  11. SuZir

    SuZir Well-Known Member

    It's better, you can be light bringer or worker or something like that (sorry, I'm translating from my language and too lazy to check the actual term used.) And if I understood, and remember, correctly from what the mom I used to know talked, it was even kind of more awesome. Basically all the benefits of indigo children minus the disadvantages like addictions etc. And you get to be enlighten from the birth.

    Okay, I'm being snarky and even basing this to something someone used to rave to me (and I tried not to listen) more than a decade ago. But even being honoured with giving birth to that indigo child made you rather special snowflake too :D So congrats Tanya!
  12. Tanya M

    Tanya M Living with an attitude of gratitude Staff Member

  13. ForeverSpring

    ForeverSpring Well-Known Member

    Well, the special ones do have their own definitions. The drugs are not in the chemical category to the Elite Ones. They are mind-opening experiences that bring them greater enlightenment that we mortals don't have. Don't call the drugs CHEMICALS!!!!!!! :biting:
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  14. ForeverSpring

    ForeverSpring Well-Known Member

    No, you were just the one honored enough to have him or her in your womb for a few months.
  15. Tanya M

    Tanya M Living with an attitude of gratitude Staff Member

    That is so something my son would say. Anything to justify his choices.
  16. ForeverSpring

    ForeverSpring Well-Known Member

    Ok, so I did a search to see where this new and improved Indigo Child idea came from and here is one of those books. This is NOTHING like the Indigo Child book I read about as there was nothing mentioned about supernatural abilities or inability to stop what shoots out of their mouths (haha...what a good excuse "I'm an Indigo Child. I speak the truth). So this is clearly insane.

    To be honest, it sounds more like Aspergers, but Aspies don't usually feel special or better or wise. They just say what they mean until they learn not to blurt.

    Actually reminds me a bit more of a narcissist.

    Maybe we should have switched the FGG to IC (Indigo Child).
  17. Tanya M

    Tanya M Living with an attitude of gratitude Staff Member

    I thought the same thing.

    I agree.

    Yes, I'm sure my son is thrilled that he now has a good excuse. I give it 6 months before he moves on to the next thing.
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  18. Lil

    Lil Well-Known Member

    Nope. Sounded accurate.

    "I'm soooo special! I'm not difficult. I'm just better than everyone else and you HAVE to not only accept me, but do exactly what I say because I'm ahead of the curve, the new breed of human. I'm the one that knows how the world should be run."
  19. ForeverSpring

    ForeverSpring Well-Known Member

    LOL...if the world was anything near what any of our difficult sweethearts think it should be like, the world would go to pot (pun intended).

    My own son is a little bit different in his thinking. To him, the world is totally unfair and in his world, the "femnazis" (yes, he uses that term...I blush as I type it) are running things and that's why men have to pay child support and alimony and get screwed over in court. He has a very backward view of the world and would probably argue a lot with many of YOUR adult children, who are more idealistic, although just as unrealistic as he is. He is afraid to say it to me but I'm sure he thinks women are too emotional to vote. He also considers pot as horrible as heroin (maybe I'm exaggerating) yet at one time he drank too much and was prescribed eight Xanax a day, which he dutifully took. To his credit, he did stop, but that smells of hypocrisy to me.
  20. DoneDad

    DoneDad Active Member

    Everybody else is wrong, I'm special you're (and everybody else) is just too stupid to see that. I'm not making idiotic choices, I'm rebelling against outdated ideas, morals, and social structures. You're just too dumb to see that.

    This definitely sounds like something difficult child's would buy into to justify their nonsense.