Late last night my husband intercepted a text message on difficult child's cell phone (that he JUST got back in the last few days). It's from a girl and said "Bring it to school tomorrow but leave it in your bag, otherwise you might get suspended" Of course, this sends our minds wheeling! husband works nights and I didn't find out about this until well after difficult child has already left for school or I would have checked his backpack myself. The school was called and notified and they brought both kids to the office, questioned them and checked their backpacks. Turns out difficult child tried to pierce his ear yesterday and was unable to get the needle through so the girl told him to bring the needle to school and she would do it for him. It could have been so much worse and we are relieved it wasn't drugs! BUT, once again this goes hand in hand with what difficult child does. If he wants something he does it. Regardless of whether or not he is supposed to. If he wants something at the store, he takes it. If he wants food at home that's restricted, he takes it. He does not stop and think of the consequenses. Months ago difficult child asked if he could pierce his ear. husband and I discussed it and agreed that it's not permanent. husband agreed he could pierce his ear if he proved to us he could be responsible. He was to work and earn money and save $500. He figured if he wanted it that bad, then it wouldn't be so hard. difficult child immediately decided it wasn't worth it and decided not to pierce his ear after all. Well, I guess he's decided instead of working to earn a trip to walmart to do it, he would just do it himself!? What do we do? What kind of punishment does this call for?? Honestly, in my opinion $500 was asking far too much of a 14 yr old in the first place but husband came to that conclusion on his own without me. BUT, now that difficult child has gone ahead and pierced his ear on his own will, he needs to fulfill that requirement. It seems that would be a good natural consequence. My husband thinks that's not enough. OR I say let the hole heal and tell him when he's 18 he can pierce his ear. It's not drugs, let's count our lucky stars! Am I being too lenient? WWYD if this was your kid?