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Interesting article - Accepting that good parents may plant bad seeds
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 713101" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Tanya, i had to laugh at something, although it isnt funny. My daughter , while using, had a therapist. I didnt go in with her but she gave me all the info I needed when she said to me, "My therapist said you should trust me more!"</p><p></p><p>Really?? She lied all the time, took drugs, snuck out of the house and ditched school. I calmly (the calm was hard) said "Well, I disagree with her. Trust is earned." I wondered what she was hearing in there or saying to therapist. She quit going. I had seen no change in her so we tried other ones. Never a change.</p><p></p><p>Therapists are not all helpful. And the school of thought among many is that the parent is at fault. It is getting better since our older kids went. My daughter is going to be 34 so she went around the time as your son probably did.</p><p></p><p>I do t know Daughters DNA but her non drug self is a sweetie. My bio son is very much like my father, which is not a good thing. Son had therapy from early on and is very smart. Always was. He was smarter than his therapists and played them. I always got the feeling his therapists felt sorry for him for being shy and downplayed his bullying of others, early porn addiction and other things like trashing a movie theatre with a friend at around 10 and being forced to clean up the whole place. Knowing his friend, I am sure it was his idea.</p><p></p><p>I am grateful every day that somehow I knew it was genetic. None of my other kids, all adopted, ever did thigs like he did. He also yells and screams just like my father. None of my other kuds ever acted near to him, not even Princess in her drug days.Nature trumps nurture All.The.Time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 713101, member: 1550"] Tanya, i had to laugh at something, although it isnt funny. My daughter , while using, had a therapist. I didnt go in with her but she gave me all the info I needed when she said to me, "My therapist said you should trust me more!" Really?? She lied all the time, took drugs, snuck out of the house and ditched school. I calmly (the calm was hard) said "Well, I disagree with her. Trust is earned." I wondered what she was hearing in there or saying to therapist. She quit going. I had seen no change in her so we tried other ones. Never a change. Therapists are not all helpful. And the school of thought among many is that the parent is at fault. It is getting better since our older kids went. My daughter is going to be 34 so she went around the time as your son probably did. I do t know Daughters DNA but her non drug self is a sweetie. My bio son is very much like my father, which is not a good thing. Son had therapy from early on and is very smart. Always was. He was smarter than his therapists and played them. I always got the feeling his therapists felt sorry for him for being shy and downplayed his bullying of others, early porn addiction and other things like trashing a movie theatre with a friend at around 10 and being forced to clean up the whole place. Knowing his friend, I am sure it was his idea. I am grateful every day that somehow I knew it was genetic. None of my other kids, all adopted, ever did thigs like he did. He also yells and screams just like my father. None of my other kuds ever acted near to him, not even Princess in her drug days.Nature trumps nurture All.The.Time. [/QUOTE]
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