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Interesting take on why adult children think it's ok to cut off parents
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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 653775" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>I think there is some truth to this. I was raised to respect my elders, to say "Yes Ma'am" "No Sir", Please and Thank You. My dad was a very good provider but if I wanted something I had to earn it. He helped me to learn the value in hard work. My husband and I raised our son with the same values.</p><p> </p><p>I never bought into the whole Dr. Spock way of thinking but much of our culture did.</p><p> </p><p>As a kid I had household chores, our son also had household chores. My son was to mow the lawn and take out the trash. It was always such a battle to get him to do this, he was always very dramatic and one of his biggest "arguments" as to why he shouldn't have to do his chores was "my friends don't have to do chores" and when he wanted something that we felt he should earn was met with "my friends parents give them whatever they want"</p><p> </p><p>I'm all for helping a child develop good self esteem but it needs to be tempered with how to deal with dissapointment, how to be a gracious loser, how to not be a cocky winner. Unfortunately parents are only one part of the influence in a childs life, media is another as well as their friends.</p><p> </p><p>We did our best to instill in our son the values and morals that if you want something it has to be earned and to have respect for others. Unfortunately he felt we treated him unfairly and always compared us to his friends parents so I am not suprised that he has an attitude of entitlement.</p><p> </p><p>It doesn't suprise me that so many adult children have cut their parents off, they never learned how to respect them or like in my case they resented the idea.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 653775, member: 18516"] I think there is some truth to this. I was raised to respect my elders, to say "Yes Ma'am" "No Sir", Please and Thank You. My dad was a very good provider but if I wanted something I had to earn it. He helped me to learn the value in hard work. My husband and I raised our son with the same values. I never bought into the whole Dr. Spock way of thinking but much of our culture did. As a kid I had household chores, our son also had household chores. My son was to mow the lawn and take out the trash. It was always such a battle to get him to do this, he was always very dramatic and one of his biggest "arguments" as to why he shouldn't have to do his chores was "my friends don't have to do chores" and when he wanted something that we felt he should earn was met with "my friends parents give them whatever they want" I'm all for helping a child develop good self esteem but it needs to be tempered with how to deal with dissapointment, how to be a gracious loser, how to not be a cocky winner. Unfortunately parents are only one part of the influence in a childs life, media is another as well as their friends. We did our best to instill in our son the values and morals that if you want something it has to be earned and to have respect for others. Unfortunately he felt we treated him unfairly and always compared us to his friends parents so I am not suprised that he has an attitude of entitlement. It doesn't suprise me that so many adult children have cut their parents off, they never learned how to respect them or like in my case they resented the idea. [/QUOTE]
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