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Interesting take on why adult children think it's ok to cut off parents
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 653987" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Well, I don't share your view of the U.S., Cedar, especially of late. Seems our good intentions are going backwards to me, but this isn't that kind of site so let's just agree to disagree.</p><p></p><p>Our kids are not just raised by us and many factors determine how they turn out. Teachers matter. Peers matter. Clergy matter. Neighbors matter.</p><p></p><p>Genetics is one big one,which is why I decided not to take too many chances and to not have more than one bio. child who, possibly due to his upbringing, is not half as affected as the rest of the clan. I am also affected. But I've been open about that. I didn't escape. None of us did of those that I know.</p><p></p><p>I believe in genetics. I think it is a good thing there are so few of my DNA left and hope my grandson and the other kids who may bear children in our DNA collection will not see the horrendous problems that our family has had for at least two generations. I told Bart about my feelings too and, looking at his non-relatives and how they have behaved, he agreed and decided only to have one child too and he will. Junior is all her wants. Junior seems like a normal, incredibly intelligent child too so we may have lucked out in this next generation. It's not like Bart doesn't know our family of origin is sick. He experienced some of it and is very smart himself. Bart, of all the kids, knew something was wrong with my mom and did not attend her funeral as he didn't know her and she never so much as sent him a birthday card on his birthday. We['ve talked. He gets it. (She ignored <em><strong>all</strong></em> of her grandkids because she didn't like me.) Who ignores grandchildren because he/she doesn't like the child? But she did. 100%.</p><p></p><p>I think it will surface again, but I wish it not to. Fortunately, the DNA pool is smaller because my uncle, and if I were calling anyone narcissistic on steroids anymore, it would be him...decided thankfully not to breed. He was too selfish to have children and Thank the Lord. My brother has never had a live in relationship. That cuts out a lot of possible DNA extras who could have prolonged whatever genetic problems are on the family tree.</p><p></p><p>But I also think environment is in there a bit and if we give our kids too much, and never tell them they need to get a part time job, say, at sixteen, why would they ever expect us to stop giving and giving? They are growing up much later these days in many cases.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 653987, member: 1550"] Well, I don't share your view of the U.S., Cedar, especially of late. Seems our good intentions are going backwards to me, but this isn't that kind of site so let's just agree to disagree. Our kids are not just raised by us and many factors determine how they turn out. Teachers matter. Peers matter. Clergy matter. Neighbors matter. Genetics is one big one,which is why I decided not to take too many chances and to not have more than one bio. child who, possibly due to his upbringing, is not half as affected as the rest of the clan. I am also affected. But I've been open about that. I didn't escape. None of us did of those that I know. I believe in genetics. I think it is a good thing there are so few of my DNA left and hope my grandson and the other kids who may bear children in our DNA collection will not see the horrendous problems that our family has had for at least two generations. I told Bart about my feelings too and, looking at his non-relatives and how they have behaved, he agreed and decided only to have one child too and he will. Junior is all her wants. Junior seems like a normal, incredibly intelligent child too so we may have lucked out in this next generation. It's not like Bart doesn't know our family of origin is sick. He experienced some of it and is very smart himself. Bart, of all the kids, knew something was wrong with my mom and did not attend her funeral as he didn't know her and she never so much as sent him a birthday card on his birthday. We['ve talked. He gets it. (She ignored [I][B]all[/B][/I] of her grandkids because she didn't like me.) Who ignores grandchildren because he/she doesn't like the child? But she did. 100%. I think it will surface again, but I wish it not to. Fortunately, the DNA pool is smaller because my uncle, and if I were calling anyone narcissistic on steroids anymore, it would be him...decided thankfully not to breed. He was too selfish to have children and Thank the Lord. My brother has never had a live in relationship. That cuts out a lot of possible DNA extras who could have prolonged whatever genetic problems are on the family tree. But I also think environment is in there a bit and if we give our kids too much, and never tell them they need to get a part time job, say, at sixteen, why would they ever expect us to stop giving and giving? They are growing up much later these days in many cases. [/QUOTE]
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