Internal vs external motivation

Discussion in 'Substance Abuse' started by toughlovin, Sep 19, 2015.

  1. toughlovin

    toughlovin Well-Known Member

    I have been thinking about this lately. So far this time in rehab has been so different. My sons attitude is what is different. I really think it is because the motivation is coming from inside him....when he hit this bottom it was totally his.

    I thought being homeless and on the streets was bottom enough and it was enough to get him to rehab but not to want to stop using for himself. I thought jail was bottom enough but again it was enough to get him into rehab but not enough to get him to stop using.

    This time it seems he got to a place where he was so miserable without anyone telling him he had to stop that he wanted it himself.

    So I think the difference is where that motivation comes from, outside forces or internal ones.
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  2. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I think you are right TL. And I think that internal motivation is what keeps people sober. Your son and my daughter rebel at authority and people telling them what they should do. But if it's their own choosing, that's a different story.
  3. PatriotsGirl

    PatriotsGirl Well-Known Member

    Agreed a million percent!!!! That was the difference with my daughter, too. SHE wanted sobriety. SHE didn't want to live this way anymore...
    And she has now been in rehab 9 months!! I can't believe she graduates in 2 more! :)
  4. SomewhereOutThere

    SomewhereOutThere Well-Known Member

    My daughter as well. She told us it was too hard to live in the drug culture. She did it for her.
  5. 1905

    1905 Well-Known Member

    So happy for you all who's child gets to this point. This is huge. I'm rooting so hard for them.