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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 681385" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Who we are is - battered and bruised.</p><p>Sometimes, physically.</p><p>Mentally.</p><p>Emotionally.</p><p>Financially.</p><p> </p><p>Why do we keep coming back for more punishment? Because there is no one else who will stand up for these kids. No one else who cares - in "the system" or anywhere else.</p><p> </p><p>"Don't get pulled in", the "experts" say. It's HIS problem.</p><p>Sure, I'll agree with that.</p><p>But <em>all of the solutions are completely outside his reach</em>.</p><p>Social services won't touch him, because he is able to work full time.</p><p>Working full time doesn't give enough income to pay for board and room somewhere (an apartment is completely out of reach, and neither situation fits with his physical and mental and emotional needs), a vehicle and gas (no bus service to where he works), food, clothes, and medication (which would take a quarter of his monthly income).</p><p>So we pay for some of the necessary (like medications), and let him live at home (he's reasonably respectful), which leaves him enough money after paying for car insurance, gas, and clothes (including expensive composite-toe work boots required for work) to have a little bit of a life. And that little bit of a life is absolutely necessary. Meet a friend for coffee, join a small group at a sports event, buy parts for his car. These are the things that will help him move forward mentally and emotionally.</p><p> </p><p>So much of this wouldn't hurt as much if it wasn't for the fact that we have no chances to recover from the "bruises" - so we keep getting hit where we are already sore.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 681385, member: 11791"] Who we are is - battered and bruised. Sometimes, physically. Mentally. Emotionally. Financially. Why do we keep coming back for more punishment? Because there is no one else who will stand up for these kids. No one else who cares - in "the system" or anywhere else. "Don't get pulled in", the "experts" say. It's HIS problem. Sure, I'll agree with that. But [I]all of the solutions are completely outside his reach[/I]. Social services won't touch him, because he is able to work full time. Working full time doesn't give enough income to pay for board and room somewhere (an apartment is completely out of reach, and neither situation fits with his physical and mental and emotional needs), a vehicle and gas (no bus service to where he works), food, clothes, and medication (which would take a quarter of his monthly income). So we pay for some of the necessary (like medications), and let him live at home (he's reasonably respectful), which leaves him enough money after paying for car insurance, gas, and clothes (including expensive composite-toe work boots required for work) to have a little bit of a life. And that little bit of a life is absolutely necessary. Meet a friend for coffee, join a small group at a sports event, buy parts for his car. These are the things that will help him move forward mentally and emotionally. So much of this wouldn't hurt as much if it wasn't for the fact that we have no chances to recover from the "bruises" - so we keep getting hit where we are already sore. [/QUOTE]
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