I am having some real power struggles with difficult child right now. Let's just run down lastnight. I got home at 4:30 and I called the boys to come home from my sisters (she watches them during the summer). difficult child got home and was so excited that he got a dollar for being good. He went back outside to play. Then I hear my neice screaming I go out and difficult child is throwing a baby frog in the air. I tell him to stop that and he says in a dumb founded way "What? I'm not doing anything!" I explain for the millionth time we don't treat frogs this way and especially in front of cousin (she is an avid animal lover, all kinds). He argues, so I tell him to come in. We go in and talk, he then gets rude with me "it is my right to play with frogs". I see that I am getting no where so I send him to his room. The then starts jumping on the bed. I have had it so I go pop him on the bottom and tell him to stop that. He then started crying and yelling that that was his bed and he had the right to jump on it if he wanted and that he did not deserve to get in trouble for it. He even started hitting himself. This lasted for about 40 min. then he came in the livingroom and I let him go out again. About 20 min later he came in and told me he had scratched my car with his bike. (We tell him and brother everyday, "Do not ride your bikes between the cars") So I told him for doing it he could use his allowance to fix the scratch. He started again how this was not fair and we were unreasonable. Afterall, "It was not his fault." About an hour later he went over to my sisters (across the street) and was telling her husband something and got frustrated and said "I'm not even going to waist my breath on you!" My sister explained that you can't talk to adults this way. Hubby and I let the kids stay up late because sis wanted them to sleep late today. So we all laid down and 10pm and I kid you not he came in our room 5 different times upset over something or another. This is a typical day. Bear in mind that he has recently been diagnosed Aspie after several tests. He is also diagnosis with severe anxiety disorder and has Bipolar tendencies. I am just so confused because I don't know what is the norm for a "pre-teen" as he reminds me daily that he is. Or what is the result of him being a difficult child! Help!