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<blockquote data-quote="Kalahou" data-source="post: 712134" data-attributes="member: 19617"><p>A dad, your son is doing fine in his 2 jobs. Wow. That is real progress for him. And you had such a fine time with him during your last visit on the holidays, as you previously shared with us. I do not think your son is naïve. With his new job on weekends, he may not want to use up his vacation days just yet, and if this other co-worker needs this time for 3 weeks, I think it is very generous for your son to postpone his own vacation. The other party may just reciprocate back to help him at another time.</p><p></p><p>Here in the USA, it is common in some business firms for the employees to work out their vacation schedules among themselves and come to mutual agreements about the vacation time, to ensure there is still adequate staff present at work. Sometimes sacrifices are made, but in the spirit of understanding and sharing.</p><p></p><p>I do not think anyone is taking advantage of your son. He seems very smart enough to stick up for what he wants to do, and to claim what is rightfully his, if he really wants to. He seems thoughtful and empathetic also to the needs of others. He has done so much on his own and worked hard and developed self-confidence since he left your home to go away.</p><p></p><p>Maybe you are just a little disappointed, because you would like your son to come for the visit to your home while the other guests are there. I think you might wish that your son wanted to come back to visit you now also, instead of making a choice to stay back while another colleague takes the vacation. I understand how this may be disappointing to you, but we need to let our adult children make their own decisions, and often times their decisions do not put us first in their lives and wishes.</p><p></p><p>I know you are very proud of this son and want the best for him. Why don’t you express that to him, and tell him you understand how he wants to help a colleague who may have a greater need at this time, and that it is quite thoughtful of him.</p><p></p><p>Your son sounds like he is doing well in growing mature and responsible. You will see him again before too long. He is going to be alright! Best Wishes to you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kalahou, post: 712134, member: 19617"] A dad, your son is doing fine in his 2 jobs. Wow. That is real progress for him. And you had such a fine time with him during your last visit on the holidays, as you previously shared with us. I do not think your son is naïve. With his new job on weekends, he may not want to use up his vacation days just yet, and if this other co-worker needs this time for 3 weeks, I think it is very generous for your son to postpone his own vacation. The other party may just reciprocate back to help him at another time. Here in the USA, it is common in some business firms for the employees to work out their vacation schedules among themselves and come to mutual agreements about the vacation time, to ensure there is still adequate staff present at work. Sometimes sacrifices are made, but in the spirit of understanding and sharing. I do not think anyone is taking advantage of your son. He seems very smart enough to stick up for what he wants to do, and to claim what is rightfully his, if he really wants to. He seems thoughtful and empathetic also to the needs of others. He has done so much on his own and worked hard and developed self-confidence since he left your home to go away. Maybe you are just a little disappointed, because you would like your son to come for the visit to your home while the other guests are there. I think you might wish that your son wanted to come back to visit you now also, instead of making a choice to stay back while another colleague takes the vacation. I understand how this may be disappointing to you, but we need to let our adult children make their own decisions, and often times their decisions do not put us first in their lives and wishes. I know you are very proud of this son and want the best for him. Why don’t you express that to him, and tell him you understand how he wants to help a colleague who may have a greater need at this time, and that it is quite thoughtful of him. Your son sounds like he is doing well in growing mature and responsible. You will see him again before too long. He is going to be alright! Best Wishes to you. [/QUOTE]
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