SuZir
Well-Known Member
Based on my own observation (mostly socially or with my dad's former addiction etc. counsellors, only tdocs I have ever seen have been rather sane and ordinary human beings) and stories difficult child is currently entertaining me with.
He is trying to find a therapist and has gone through lots of websites of potential providers, made quite a many calls and had some meet and greet sessions to find out if they could be a match. His point of view is of course biased, he really isn't looking forward getting back to therapy though he knows he has to. He is also very science orientated and sceptical and doesn't do touchy feely or mushy at all. But especially some of the websites he has linked me are really from out there. Some really bizarre claims, coexistence of their licensed therapy services with really alternative ones and just plain extreme eccentrics. And these are all licensed therapists, mostly doing CBT with some more psycho-dynamically minded mixed in. And even after only calling to those with more suitable websites/other info and after that only having that meet and greet appointment with those he could consider, difficult child has had some really odd meet and greet appointments and is harbouring an idea that being crazy really is contagious and these tdocs have first got it from their patients and are now passing it on.
One therapist he has met he can consider working with. But her location is less than ideal, if doable, and she isn't taking new patients before March. And I have an inkling that difficult child also has a problem with she being a she, I think he would prefer male therapist even if he doesn't say that aloud. Of course it is very female dominated business around here and trauma therapists are even more often women as are their patients (well, all patients of tdocs are mostly women, mental health issues are very much under diagnosed with men around here according to many studies and even those who are diagnosed are not likely to go for therapy as often as women.) difficult child's former therapist, whom he liked, was a man and difficult child has been living rather masculine and male dominated life most of his life, so trusting a female therapist, especially a one who he feels speaks too emotionally or asks difficult child to trust her too quickly may be difficult for him (some of the therapists difficult child has had those first appointments asked difficult child to make quite the leaps of faith and trust right on the first appointment, really didn't sit well for difficult child. difficult child does have few more meet and greets left before he has gone through all the tdocs in the area who are taking new patients next spring. Hopefully some of them is even better match than the one he is considering.
But it really is rather astonishing how far away even some licensed therapists seem to be. And then there are unlicensed ones over whom no one is even watching and who tend to be really out there!
He is trying to find a therapist and has gone through lots of websites of potential providers, made quite a many calls and had some meet and greet sessions to find out if they could be a match. His point of view is of course biased, he really isn't looking forward getting back to therapy though he knows he has to. He is also very science orientated and sceptical and doesn't do touchy feely or mushy at all. But especially some of the websites he has linked me are really from out there. Some really bizarre claims, coexistence of their licensed therapy services with really alternative ones and just plain extreme eccentrics. And these are all licensed therapists, mostly doing CBT with some more psycho-dynamically minded mixed in. And even after only calling to those with more suitable websites/other info and after that only having that meet and greet appointment with those he could consider, difficult child has had some really odd meet and greet appointments and is harbouring an idea that being crazy really is contagious and these tdocs have first got it from their patients and are now passing it on.
One therapist he has met he can consider working with. But her location is less than ideal, if doable, and she isn't taking new patients before March. And I have an inkling that difficult child also has a problem with she being a she, I think he would prefer male therapist even if he doesn't say that aloud. Of course it is very female dominated business around here and trauma therapists are even more often women as are their patients (well, all patients of tdocs are mostly women, mental health issues are very much under diagnosed with men around here according to many studies and even those who are diagnosed are not likely to go for therapy as often as women.) difficult child's former therapist, whom he liked, was a man and difficult child has been living rather masculine and male dominated life most of his life, so trusting a female therapist, especially a one who he feels speaks too emotionally or asks difficult child to trust her too quickly may be difficult for him (some of the therapists difficult child has had those first appointments asked difficult child to make quite the leaps of faith and trust right on the first appointment, really didn't sit well for difficult child. difficult child does have few more meet and greets left before he has gone through all the tdocs in the area who are taking new patients next spring. Hopefully some of them is even better match than the one he is considering.
But it really is rather astonishing how far away even some licensed therapists seem to be. And then there are unlicensed ones over whom no one is even watching and who tend to be really out there!
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