I am a forgive and forgive person - until someone repeatedly hurts me or my family in the same ways. When I determine it is not a mistake or accident, when I come to the conclusion that this is just how this person is and how they will always behave toward me, I am done. Forever like you never existed done. Yes, I realize this is probably a character flaw. It is not a feeling of hate or anger but complete apathy and disinterest in that person. I am at that point with my daughter. She has for many years purposely lied, manipulated, embarrassed, shamed, and deceived me. She has emotionally blackmailed me, spread vicious lies about me, blamed me for every mistake she has ever made, made me feel guilty and obligated and has purposely sought out opportunities to try to ruin my name and reputation. After spending more money than I can afford and time from my job than I needed to in order to be by her side after her accident, months of my life on hold to try to "save" her and get her back on a good path, any path better than the one she was on, she has again began her campaign of "Mom hate and shame." And I truly feel done. I feel nothing, and I mean nothing, for her. I don't want to see or talk to her. I don't care where she is, who she is with or what she is doing. If she called or texted, I think I would just utter the word no and hang up. And even if by some miraculous divine intervention, she suddenly changed and got better and made amends, I could never believe it, believe her, or forget all she has done. I will forever expect this from her because she has shown me for years this is WHO she is and WHAT she does. She is a user and abuser and I am done. I am sure there is a special spot in hell for a mother like me, but it is a different kind of hell having a child like her.