so if you guys read my post i sent difficult child to her dad's overnight last night until today. I needed the break, i was a bit apprehensive yet I did it because i knew she wanted to and i knew i needed the time. so guess what, exh announces to difficult child how him and his wife are breaking up. now to explain his wife is never there when difficult child has gone in the past, she is like the invisible wife. so difficult child had no relationship with her. did in the beginning years ago. why would he tell her today? she has been eating for what 5 days now, and he decides today is a good day to dump this on her???? is it me, am i nuts or is this guy truly certifiable? so needless to say she was beyond upset more worried about dad being alone, than begging me to divorce my husband and get back with him. NOT! on and on she cried. finally calmed her and put her in a warm shower after yes 6 days of not showering. natural consequences on that one were a bit too much for us.