If I have feelings of hurt in this whole, crappy difficult child world? My biological mother pretty much says no. According to her, I must put my feelings aside and keep searching for ways to help difficult child. I'm already in an emotional place having had to kick him out, but now I feel she, and one of my 1/2 brothers, feel that I just haven't done enough to 'fix' this. Additionally, they have made me feel that living my life should not be done as long as difficult child has problems. While deep down, I know better, their opinion expressed to me has left me in quite a funk. Mind you, I've never had a close relationship with them, but in all honesty, when they reached out to me in August, I thought they were offering support and I was thrilled. (Guess that portion of this belongs on an adoptee forum!) ;-) And it certainly doesn't help that difficult child just stopped in. Seeing him hurts to the core because I can't get through to him. Of course, his stopping in was due to needing something. His washer has broken and he wants hubby to look at it. I don't have a problem with that as long as he's not looking to do his wash here...he has to feel the full affects of being a 'big boy' on his own!