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<blockquote data-quote="EB67" data-source="post: 55477" data-attributes="member: 3750"><p>I have a few thoughts based on what you've said.</p><p></p><p>First, to leave him alone under the circumstances could be potentially explosive. I wouldn't do it.</p><p></p><p>Secondly, to take him to the pool but not allow him to swim could also bring on an explosion. It's heavily punitive, which, although reasonable given his behaviors, will also potentially make the situation more explosive. If you buy into the idea that the severity of his behavior is beyond his control then you should question what type of punishment is appropriate. </p><p></p><p>If he is at the pool, punished and unable to join the fun would he not potentially explode? It seems like a pressure cooker situation to me: I find it hard to imagine that he would just sit there without a mounting anger. And given the potential for a further explosion, if it were me, the thought of that alone would cancel out any enjoyment *I* might have.</p><p></p><p>So given that, I would either: </p><p>1. Go plan C-- and explain that you've given it some thought and the pool outing will be a nice activity for the two of you or </p><p>2. Stick to your original "threat" and cancel the pool outing for both of you-- the potential for him to cause damage at home alone of have an explosiove episode while on the sidelines at the pool is too great.</p><p></p><p>I hope I haven't offended with unsolicited advice-- this just occurred to me and I hope it helps.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="EB67, post: 55477, member: 3750"] I have a few thoughts based on what you've said. First, to leave him alone under the circumstances could be potentially explosive. I wouldn't do it. Secondly, to take him to the pool but not allow him to swim could also bring on an explosion. It's heavily punitive, which, although reasonable given his behaviors, will also potentially make the situation more explosive. If you buy into the idea that the severity of his behavior is beyond his control then you should question what type of punishment is appropriate. If he is at the pool, punished and unable to join the fun would he not potentially explode? It seems like a pressure cooker situation to me: I find it hard to imagine that he would just sit there without a mounting anger. And given the potential for a further explosion, if it were me, the thought of that alone would cancel out any enjoyment *I* might have. So given that, I would either: 1. Go plan C-- and explain that you've given it some thought and the pool outing will be a nice activity for the two of you or 2. Stick to your original "threat" and cancel the pool outing for both of you-- the potential for him to cause damage at home alone of have an explosiove episode while on the sidelines at the pool is too great. I hope I haven't offended with unsolicited advice-- this just occurred to me and I hope it helps. [/QUOTE]
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