I am hearing from husband and J that I have been 'hypercritical' this week. I did have a meltdown when I slipped in a puddle of laundry soap they just swept aside and then walked though and dripped water all over. I thought falling on my tushie because J and T couldn't bother to deal with a spill of THEIR making was not unreasonable. Was I wrong? I didn't yell or curse, just made it clear that it was NOT okay.
I also took the broom and dustpan off of a stack of pots and pans we hadn't gotten put away yet (very little room in the kitchen and I love kitchen stuff). I interrupted husband's computer game and the episode of Smallville that J and T were watching. I really tried to get their attention with-o turning off the tv, but that didn't work. So I took the remote and paused the dvd. I did NOT raise my voice, call them names, or act/speak in a rude manner. I explained how germy and gross it was, and from that point I thought it was covered.
Later that SAME night I found the broom on top of a bin that I store sprinkles in. This is an open bit,since each container of sprinkles is airtight like a spice jar. I was a lot less than thrilled, esp because it was the SAME broom that I had previously shown them ALL where it was to be kept. Heck, I even let them help pick the most logical place to keep it.
I wasn't happy and made t known. I was a bit juvenile when I slammed the door as I left the room after insisting that the all 3 get up and take a turn putting the broom away so that they will know HOW to put it away. I would NEVER have done that except husband and thank you BOTH told me that they couldn't figure out how the hook worked. Putting the loopon the broom handle over the hook in the closet. You know, like almost every hook works!
Is it hypercritical to expect my husband and kids to not put dirty, dust brooms and dustpans on top of food and/or food containers? Esp as they use that broom to sweep up after the litter box?
I am getting very tired of hearing that every request I make that is about any type of cleaning/storage is being 'hypercritical'. I am NOT asking them to be perfect or clean perfectly. I just want trash put into the trash, and if they are washing a dish that it doesn't have something crusty or slimy on it, and if they get out something of mne then they put it away or tell me if it is damaged/used up. I do NOT yell or fuss if get angry if/when they tell me. Sometimes they have to replace the them, but lots of times I knew they had limited useful life and was prepared/preparing to replace them.
So how hypercritical am I? According to them I am either hypercritical or they are shocked because I am not upset about whatever it is. I am NOT faking the not being upset, I simply expected it and moved on - whatever it was.
Is it reasonable to ask my family to not put things they clean up cat doodoo with near anything that relates to food? Or is it hypercritical to expect them to pay attention to where they put the broom etc... so that it is at least not on food/food service/prep areas.
I also took the broom and dustpan off of a stack of pots and pans we hadn't gotten put away yet (very little room in the kitchen and I love kitchen stuff). I interrupted husband's computer game and the episode of Smallville that J and T were watching. I really tried to get their attention with-o turning off the tv, but that didn't work. So I took the remote and paused the dvd. I did NOT raise my voice, call them names, or act/speak in a rude manner. I explained how germy and gross it was, and from that point I thought it was covered.
Later that SAME night I found the broom on top of a bin that I store sprinkles in. This is an open bit,since each container of sprinkles is airtight like a spice jar. I was a lot less than thrilled, esp because it was the SAME broom that I had previously shown them ALL where it was to be kept. Heck, I even let them help pick the most logical place to keep it.
I wasn't happy and made t known. I was a bit juvenile when I slammed the door as I left the room after insisting that the all 3 get up and take a turn putting the broom away so that they will know HOW to put it away. I would NEVER have done that except husband and thank you BOTH told me that they couldn't figure out how the hook worked. Putting the loopon the broom handle over the hook in the closet. You know, like almost every hook works!
Is it hypercritical to expect my husband and kids to not put dirty, dust brooms and dustpans on top of food and/or food containers? Esp as they use that broom to sweep up after the litter box?
I am getting very tired of hearing that every request I make that is about any type of cleaning/storage is being 'hypercritical'. I am NOT asking them to be perfect or clean perfectly. I just want trash put into the trash, and if they are washing a dish that it doesn't have something crusty or slimy on it, and if they get out something of mne then they put it away or tell me if it is damaged/used up. I do NOT yell or fuss if get angry if/when they tell me. Sometimes they have to replace the them, but lots of times I knew they had limited useful life and was prepared/preparing to replace them.
So how hypercritical am I? According to them I am either hypercritical or they are shocked because I am not upset about whatever it is. I am NOT faking the not being upset, I simply expected it and moved on - whatever it was.
Is it reasonable to ask my family to not put things they clean up cat doodoo with near anything that relates to food? Or is it hypercritical to expect them to pay attention to where they put the broom etc... so that it is at least not on food/food service/prep areas.
Leave the litter scoop on their dinner plates???
