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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 693212" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Hi Jaw and welcome to the forum. We're glad you're here.</p><p></p><p>In most families, there are different political views and most either agree to disagree and discuss it all up and down, or agree that some topics are off limits. In my family I grew up in, I'm the lone D and the rest are Rs, which is fine, and we just don't go there much. </p><p></p><p>What you are talking about is way beyond differing political views. Like you said, you are being punished for having a different world view. That signals a problem, I don't know what it is or if it's a diagnosis, but it sounds like she is making your differences a litmus test. </p><p></p><p>I'm sure there is more to your story---there always is---but I've also learned that after we try to talk with people in this situation and work out compromises, and none can be reached after multiple tries, then it's time to do something different. Unless there is a heart change in her, you will have to accept what is going on and the resulting boundaries she is created. It's not fair, and it's sad, and you both are missing out, but you can't reason with and find common ground with someone who isn't willing. </p><p></p><p>It doesn't matter what it's called, it's not working. I'm sorry. I know it hurts when people we love so much act like this. Please keep sharing here. We care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 693212, member: 17542"] Hi Jaw and welcome to the forum. We're glad you're here. In most families, there are different political views and most either agree to disagree and discuss it all up and down, or agree that some topics are off limits. In my family I grew up in, I'm the lone D and the rest are Rs, which is fine, and we just don't go there much. What you are talking about is way beyond differing political views. Like you said, you are being punished for having a different world view. That signals a problem, I don't know what it is or if it's a diagnosis, but it sounds like she is making your differences a litmus test. I'm sure there is more to your story---there always is---but I've also learned that after we try to talk with people in this situation and work out compromises, and none can be reached after multiple tries, then it's time to do something different. Unless there is a heart change in her, you will have to accept what is going on and the resulting boundaries she is created. It's not fair, and it's sad, and you both are missing out, but you can't reason with and find common ground with someone who isn't willing. It doesn't matter what it's called, it's not working. I'm sorry. I know it hurts when people we love so much act like this. Please keep sharing here. We care. [/QUOTE]
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