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Is there any way I can help him without tough love
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 656183" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Welcome. I think there are some stories of our adult kids who are not manipulating us and who are making every attempt to heal and grow who are not thrown out to fend for themselves. </p><p></p><p>Is your son living with you? How old is he? Is he respectful?</p><p></p><p>I don't think there is only one way to handle our kids who won't or cannot launch, however, here, many of our kids have been enabled by us and are highly manipulative and disrespectful as well as downright nasty. We end up being the scapegoat for their choices and behaviors. If that is not the case for you, then you are in a different situation entirely. </p><p></p><p>If you are willing to offer your son a safe place to stay while he learns how to cope with his panic attacks and you feel okay about that, then there is nothing wrong with that choice. However, if you are feeling resentment, anger, depleted and exhausted, you may want to find other options. In the meantime, in my opinion, it is always a good idea for us parents to find support so we can take care of ourselves. The organization NAMI offers very good courses for parents who are confronted with adult kids who are facing mental challenges. You may want to contact them, they have chapters in most major cites and can be accessed on line. They will give you support and advice and guidance as to how to deal with the situation you find yourself in.</p><p></p><p>It's tough having a child who goes off the rails for whatever reason. Get yourself in supportive environments. Keep posting. Take care of YOU.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 656183, member: 13542"] Welcome. I think there are some stories of our adult kids who are not manipulating us and who are making every attempt to heal and grow who are not thrown out to fend for themselves. Is your son living with you? How old is he? Is he respectful? I don't think there is only one way to handle our kids who won't or cannot launch, however, here, many of our kids have been enabled by us and are highly manipulative and disrespectful as well as downright nasty. We end up being the scapegoat for their choices and behaviors. If that is not the case for you, then you are in a different situation entirely. If you are willing to offer your son a safe place to stay while he learns how to cope with his panic attacks and you feel okay about that, then there is nothing wrong with that choice. However, if you are feeling resentment, anger, depleted and exhausted, you may want to find other options. In the meantime, in my opinion, it is always a good idea for us parents to find support so we can take care of ourselves. The organization NAMI offers very good courses for parents who are confronted with adult kids who are facing mental challenges. You may want to contact them, they have chapters in most major cites and can be accessed on line. They will give you support and advice and guidance as to how to deal with the situation you find yourself in. It's tough having a child who goes off the rails for whatever reason. Get yourself in supportive environments. Keep posting. Take care of YOU. [/QUOTE]
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