Hello everyone, This is my first post, I hope I've found the right place! I have a difficult child, female, 17 yrs old that has pushed me to my limits. She is actively defiant, more so than "ordinary" for an adolescent and I don't know where to turn next. Briefly, her father & I divorced when she was 5, no problems until she was around 11, then she became increasingly difficult with-whichever parent she was with at the time. We (XDH & I) tried having her live with him, she fought with-new wife & 1st diagnosis of Borderline (BPD) was made. Things went bad & she was arrested for DV & I had her move in with-her sister, brother and myself. Arrested 2x's for DV, counselor not helpful; switched to new therapist & rcv'd diagnosis of rapidly cycling dysthymic disorder. She is currently VERY verbally abusive to me, saying things far too vile to repeat, using every cuss word she can think of, saying things about me that are not true and generally has made a practice of totally demonizing me, including making up stories and accusing me of things that never happened. It's been awhile since I was in therapy, and I'm no longer as "up" on how to handle such stuff. This difficult child has worn me down & I don't know if she can be helped anymore now that she is 17. Any suggestions, input, advice??????