Is this my problem?
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Well, the story has changed again so I think something is definitely fishy here. She said again, though, that is was her problem and that she would find a way to eat. So I have put it in the "box" and it is officially not my problem.
On a good note . . . the truck was returned in pristine condition. This is a first!! difficult child also seems to be doing well at work. They are giving her the key to the salon today and she will be pretty much on her own opening and closing and running the front desk. The owners will just pop in and out and check in by computer.
~Kathy
On a good note . . . the truck was returned in pristine condition. This is a first!! difficult child also seems to be doing well at work. They are giving her the key to the salon today and she will be pretty much on her own opening and closing and running the front desk. The owners will just pop in and out and check in by computer.
~Kathy
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AmericanGirl
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Yeah for the truck!
HUGE Yeah for putting things in the box!!
HUGE Yeah for putting things in the box!!
buddy
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She better not leave the keys in her room!
I have not read all the replies. What happened to the money won't ever be known. She could file a police report with no proof it was stolen, so that is just her word and not proof.
The REAL issue is that she said she would handle it. if you step in now, you tell her you don't think she CAN handle it. If she comes to you later in the week with a request for cash, maybe $10 would be okay, but I probably would not. How many weeks did YOU go to work or wherever with no money and whatever food you cuold scrounge at home? Most of us have done this many times. It wasn't fun but we survived just fine.
Don't infantilize her by solving her problems and making life easy for her. Let her be a REAL adult and struggle and miss a meal or two here or there. It won't hurt her and probably will help her grow up and maybe even help her not want to live at home so badly. Let her know that you believe that she can handle her life with-o you rescuing her from a minor 1 week problem. Let her know that you are PROUD that she figured out a solution by herself!! After all, she figured out how to get all the $$ to buy drugs didn't she? food money should be no big deal after that!
PLEASE let her be an adult and fix her own problem. You did NOT force her to leave her $ there. If you fix it, then she won't learn to never do it again.
The REAL issue is that she said she would handle it. if you step in now, you tell her you don't think she CAN handle it. If she comes to you later in the week with a request for cash, maybe $10 would be okay, but I probably would not. How many weeks did YOU go to work or wherever with no money and whatever food you cuold scrounge at home? Most of us have done this many times. It wasn't fun but we survived just fine.
Don't infantilize her by solving her problems and making life easy for her. Let her be a REAL adult and struggle and miss a meal or two here or there. It won't hurt her and probably will help her grow up and maybe even help her not want to live at home so badly. Let her know that you believe that she can handle her life with-o you rescuing her from a minor 1 week problem. Let her know that you are PROUD that she figured out a solution by herself!! After all, she figured out how to get all the $$ to buy drugs didn't she? food money should be no big deal after that!
PLEASE let her be an adult and fix her own problem. You did NOT force her to leave her $ there. If you fix it, then she won't learn to never do it again.
Actually, Susie, it will be two weeks but you are right that she needs to solve this problem. I guess she can borrow money from someone and pay them back when she gets her paycheck.
We will not lend her the money since she has a long history of not paying us back for loans.
~Kathy
We will not lend her the money since she has a long history of not paying us back for loans.
~Kathy
