Just at the point when my difficult child is learning empathy (he was incensed at the reporters shoving microphones in the faces of US Air crash survivors), he is backsliding in regard to personal hygeine. He's still got a thing for urinating into or onto anything besides a toilet. (Long-time members will recall our previous experiences.) Several times in the past few mo's, we have awakened to a very smelly sink in the bathroom. This a.m, easy child said there was standing urine in it and she cleaned it. (She is sooooo looking forward to moving out and going to college!) I asked difficult child why he would do that instead of using the toilet. (The key to some of this is how to phrase it; if I ask, "Who peed in the sink!!!?" he will deny it by some obscure technicality, just like a seasoned lawyer.) He said he had to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night but wasn't going to make it, so he used a juice packet, and then dumped the packet into the sink. I asked him why he used the sink instead of the toilet. He said because it makes a lot of noise and he didn't want to wake me and upset me. I told him, "I'm upset right now so it didn't work, did it? This is not acceptable." I also asked him why he couldn't have just run quickly, because it surely took him 30 seconds to take the juice pkt to the bathroom and dump it, so he still had to get up. He told me I didn't understand. I said, "Let's go find the juice packet and throw it away." We went through his trash and the bathroom waste basket and of course, there was no juice packet because he probably made up the whole thing. He's got such twisted logic. Maybe he went straight into the sink because it is, in fact, quieter than the toilet. It's just so hard living with-a weirdo. He is so lacking in social conventions. I just want to wake up one day with-o the smell of urine or feces or Major League B.O. pervading every corner of the house, and just go for one day with-o someone poking my arm, poke, poke, poke, poke, poke ... and repeating my name 52 million times. (Sorry, had to insert a short rant in there.) This seems like an Aspie thing. He really doesn't seem to get it.