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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 749163" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>It's very easy to see a blurred line when it comes to enabling. </p><p></p><p>For me, the easiest way to determine is to use the following:</p><p>Enabling - the act of doing something for people that could and should be doing for themselves.</p><p>Helping - the act of doing something for people that are unable to do for themselves.</p><p></p><p>In the case of the eggs and yogurt, sure it would be easy to say it's helping since he doesn't have a refrigerator, however, he could have a cooler and buy ice. Also, he did not have to take the perishable items. </p><p></p><p>You cannot put the toothpaste back in the tube, you took the food and offered to make him egg salad sandwiches, which is a very kind act. If it were me, I would use this as a learning curve for both of you. </p><p>I would tell him something like; "The next time you go to the food pantry you need to make sure you only take non-perishable items unless you get a cooler to keep them in. It is not my responsibility to keep your food for you"</p><p></p><p>The positive to take away from this is, he went to the food pantry! That is a great step for him to have taken.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 749163, member: 18516"] It's very easy to see a blurred line when it comes to enabling. For me, the easiest way to determine is to use the following: Enabling - the act of doing something for people that could and should be doing for themselves. Helping - the act of doing something for people that are unable to do for themselves. In the case of the eggs and yogurt, sure it would be easy to say it's helping since he doesn't have a refrigerator, however, he could have a cooler and buy ice. Also, he did not have to take the perishable items. You cannot put the toothpaste back in the tube, you took the food and offered to make him egg salad sandwiches, which is a very kind act. If it were me, I would use this as a learning curve for both of you. I would tell him something like; "The next time you go to the food pantry you need to make sure you only take non-perishable items unless you get a cooler to keep them in. It is not my responsibility to keep your food for you" The positive to take away from this is, he went to the food pantry! That is a great step for him to have taken. [/QUOTE]
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