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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 749165" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>He made his own situation. He would eat better in a shelter. in my opinion I enabled too much and don't recommend it if you want peace or your 37 year old child to ever be motivated to grow up. And trust me my daughter did not grow up and is not even loving that we did so much for her. She is rude to us, wont even contact us now. Wont talk at all</p><p></p><p>Your son doesnt need your sandwiches delivered to the place he decided to live in (his car). He can eat what he can. I don't t think its that bad to hold things like yogurt in your fridge if you have room. If you want, hard boiled eggs. That is it in my opinion. Then make him come and get food if he wants it. You arent his personal cook or slave. If he is able bodied he can work. Many disabled people work or wish they could.</p><p></p><p>My daughter wont work. Her husband has a crappy job, but so far it has paid for a super crappy apartment in a neighborhood where there are gunshots sometimes. She hates us for not paying for a nicer place yet we bought and rented her places for TEN years and now we are left with a very small retirement which we can no longer afford to touch. So she and Lee need a new bank, not us, or they have to live there. And I wouldnt be surprised if if Lee didnt pay even this low rent and that they are evicted. Again.</p><p></p><p>Will your food deliveries help your son? Will he even be nicer to you for your effort? My experience treating my daughter like she had to have comfort, because I couldnt bear for her not to, hurt her more than helped her. She does nothing for herself. She even.begs me to make dental appointments for her. Then of course her next request is if we will pay. If I say no the cussing starts.</p><p></p><p>Not anymore will we coddle her.</p><p></p><p>I am on vacation now and soon to grill lunch with my husband but am dependent on this place so still checking in. Even so, I feel peace in the warm breeze and waves and no phone calls. Very different than at home. I hope you have a nice day and for yourself make nice days for just relaxing. This is awesome.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 749165, member: 23706"] He made his own situation. He would eat better in a shelter. in my opinion I enabled too much and don't recommend it if you want peace or your 37 year old child to ever be motivated to grow up. And trust me my daughter did not grow up and is not even loving that we did so much for her. She is rude to us, wont even contact us now. Wont talk at all Your son doesnt need your sandwiches delivered to the place he decided to live in (his car). He can eat what he can. I don't t think its that bad to hold things like yogurt in your fridge if you have room. If you want, hard boiled eggs. That is it in my opinion. Then make him come and get food if he wants it. You arent his personal cook or slave. If he is able bodied he can work. Many disabled people work or wish they could. My daughter wont work. Her husband has a crappy job, but so far it has paid for a super crappy apartment in a neighborhood where there are gunshots sometimes. She hates us for not paying for a nicer place yet we bought and rented her places for TEN years and now we are left with a very small retirement which we can no longer afford to touch. So she and Lee need a new bank, not us, or they have to live there. And I wouldnt be surprised if if Lee didnt pay even this low rent and that they are evicted. Again. Will your food deliveries help your son? Will he even be nicer to you for your effort? My experience treating my daughter like she had to have comfort, because I couldnt bear for her not to, hurt her more than helped her. She does nothing for herself. She even.begs me to make dental appointments for her. Then of course her next request is if we will pay. If I say no the cussing starts. Not anymore will we coddle her. I am on vacation now and soon to grill lunch with my husband but am dependent on this place so still checking in. Even so, I feel peace in the warm breeze and waves and no phone calls. Very different than at home. I hope you have a nice day and for yourself make nice days for just relaxing. This is awesome. [/QUOTE]
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