flutterby
Fly away!
The thing is, YOU can't fix her. Only she can fix herself. As far as the ground rules - she'll only follow them if it suits her. And I don't see it suiting her - not for long anyway.
At 30 years old, this is enabling. There are consequences for abusing people. If it were an abused wife, you would tell her to go to a domestic violence shelter. If it were an abused child, you would contact Children's Services. You and your parents are being abused and the only way to stop it, is to stop allowing it. By allowing her into your home, you are allowing it. That is how she will see it. Because yet again she is getting what she wants by exhibiting bad behavior.
At 30 years old, she should be on her own for rent. If you're in an economically and politically sound country, there will be shelters or other such places for her to go.
It's on her. It's not your job to fix her. And you can't, no matter how much you want to. Honestly, I see this turning your life into a living hell and I'm very worried about you.
At 30 years old, this is enabling. There are consequences for abusing people. If it were an abused wife, you would tell her to go to a domestic violence shelter. If it were an abused child, you would contact Children's Services. You and your parents are being abused and the only way to stop it, is to stop allowing it. By allowing her into your home, you are allowing it. That is how she will see it. Because yet again she is getting what she wants by exhibiting bad behavior.
At 30 years old, she should be on her own for rent. If you're in an economically and politically sound country, there will be shelters or other such places for her to go.
It's on her. It's not your job to fix her. And you can't, no matter how much you want to. Honestly, I see this turning your life into a living hell and I'm very worried about you.