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Is throwing an adult child out the right decision?
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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 763666" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>I would consider some or all of the following things:</p><p>*Go to a Families Anonymous or an Alanon mtg. Or any of these type of meetings with other parents of drug addicted adult children. Get some advice from others who have been in your situation.</p><p>*Consider a few sessions of marriage or family counseling with your spouse. If you do step one, you might not need more than that.</p><p>*If and only if your son is open to it and cooperative, see if he would go to a psychiatrist in case he has a mental health diagnosis that would make him elegible for disability. If he is not on disability, this might be something for him in the future. Consider paying fir a few sessions to see if he has a diagnosis and make it official.</p><p>*No, I would not allow him in your home anymore. Change your locks. Keep info about shelters , halfway houses , rehabs etc to potentially give him. But he has to do the work (esp with reference to rehab) and MOST importantly has to make the personal decision for change.</p><p>*I would consider paying for him to have a cell phone and helping him complete any paperwork for food stamps if he needs help with that. Perhaps little more than this. GREATLY (can’t stress this enough) limit your involvement with him. He is 40. Enough. Learn about “detachment.”</p><p>*If he is ever physically abusive to you or tries to break into your home, I would call the police.</p><p>*If he is verbally abusive to you, I would block him on your phone for however long you deem appropriate. For example two days , etc.</p><p>*Take excellent care of yourself as this stuff is very taxing on the mind and body. Eat healthy, take a multi vitamin, see the doctor for yourself. Seek spiritual guidance if that might help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 763666, member: 4152"] I would consider some or all of the following things: *Go to a Families Anonymous or an Alanon mtg. Or any of these type of meetings with other parents of drug addicted adult children. Get some advice from others who have been in your situation. *Consider a few sessions of marriage or family counseling with your spouse. If you do step one, you might not need more than that. *If and only if your son is open to it and cooperative, see if he would go to a psychiatrist in case he has a mental health diagnosis that would make him elegible for disability. If he is not on disability, this might be something for him in the future. Consider paying fir a few sessions to see if he has a diagnosis and make it official. *No, I would not allow him in your home anymore. Change your locks. Keep info about shelters , halfway houses , rehabs etc to potentially give him. But he has to do the work (esp with reference to rehab) and MOST importantly has to make the personal decision for change. *I would consider paying for him to have a cell phone and helping him complete any paperwork for food stamps if he needs help with that. Perhaps little more than this. GREATLY (can’t stress this enough) limit your involvement with him. He is 40. Enough. Learn about “detachment.” *If he is ever physically abusive to you or tries to break into your home, I would call the police. *If he is verbally abusive to you, I would block him on your phone for however long you deem appropriate. For example two days , etc. *Take excellent care of yourself as this stuff is very taxing on the mind and body. Eat healthy, take a multi vitamin, see the doctor for yourself. Seek spiritual guidance if that might help. [/QUOTE]
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