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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 755251" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Oh Joysheph, I am so sorry for your health issues and troubles with your son.</p><p>In my experience with my two, they just don’t do well living at home. It’s too easy, or too hard, or too well, <em>anything</em>. When their father battled with illness (three years or so) then passed, rather than that being a catalyst for change, they sunk deeper into their addiction.</p><p>I don’t think addicts deal well at all with loved ones illness, especially if they are dependent on them. Instead of invoking empathy and a call to action, my two became more entrenched in their bad choices.</p><p>I had to make the same decision you are, no drugs in my home. While I do love my two and pray for them, I cannot and will not house them. Too much water under the bridge. Stress level is way too high, and, they don’t care in their using state how that effects others.</p><p>My two have not been to rehab. One is going next week straight from jail. We will see how that works out.</p><p>Your son has had a taste of what that is. Hopefully he will choose to be sober. It is good you have set this boundary for him and for you. Although it is hard making him leave, living with the anxiety of his isolating, the attitude and disrespect, the drug use, all of that is unacceptable.</p><p>A well adult child would see the need to help in your recovery, not add to stress. Unfortunately our waywards when using do not have the wherewithal to have that kind of compassion. I am sorry for the heartache of what you endured in your time of need. I will never quite be able to wrap my head around the pain of seeing my twos’ selfishness in their addiction during an awful time for our family. Drugs are mind and soul stealers.</p><p>Much love to to you and prayers for health.</p><p>Your son will have to figure out his path.</p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 755251, member: 19522"] Oh Joysheph, I am so sorry for your health issues and troubles with your son. In my experience with my two, they just don’t do well living at home. It’s too easy, or too hard, or too well, [I]anything[/I]. When their father battled with illness (three years or so) then passed, rather than that being a catalyst for change, they sunk deeper into their addiction. I don’t think addicts deal well at all with loved ones illness, especially if they are dependent on them. Instead of invoking empathy and a call to action, my two became more entrenched in their bad choices. I had to make the same decision you are, no drugs in my home. While I do love my two and pray for them, I cannot and will not house them. Too much water under the bridge. Stress level is way too high, and, they don’t care in their using state how that effects others. My two have not been to rehab. One is going next week straight from jail. We will see how that works out. Your son has had a taste of what that is. Hopefully he will choose to be sober. It is good you have set this boundary for him and for you. Although it is hard making him leave, living with the anxiety of his isolating, the attitude and disrespect, the drug use, all of that is unacceptable. A well adult child would see the need to help in your recovery, not add to stress. Unfortunately our waywards when using do not have the wherewithal to have that kind of compassion. I am sorry for the heartache of what you endured in your time of need. I will never quite be able to wrap my head around the pain of seeing my twos’ selfishness in their addiction during an awful time for our family. Drugs are mind and soul stealers. Much love to to you and prayers for health. Your son will have to figure out his path. (((Hugs))) Leafy [/QUOTE]
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