Very frustrating afternoon. Received a call from difficult child's math teacher saying he was sent to the office and "owed" her the time he missed in class. She said he came into class and sat in a desk in the back of the room (his desk is in the front). He told her he was going to sit here today. She said no, you're going to sit in your own desk. He said no, I'm going to sit here today. She told him he either had to sit in his own desk or go to the office. She gave him a minute while she wrote something on the board for the other kids to work on. Before she had a chance to return to him, he used a rubber band to shoot a tiny paper wad across the room. She immediately told him to go to the office. After school, he came out to the van and I reminded him that he owed her time but he argued with me about going back in. After 5 minutes he SLOWLY made his way back in and I followed him to make sure he went where he was supposed to go. He did. The problem then became that he had his work done for that class so she gave him extra work. That started a meltdown including calling her a liar, yelling that he hates me, screaming that he's not going to do extra work, etc. He finally agreed to do "a couple" problems but wanted to do them in his notebook with the other work. She wouldn't let him go get his notebook from his locker so he went anyway, got his notebook, and went back and did a couple problems. She then told him he could work on other homework if he had any. He didn't have it with him because I was holding onto it for him to bring home.He used her phone without permission to call me and ask me to bring it to him. I did and he did some homework until his time was up. I don't know about any of you but does this seem like a "power struggle" between BOTH of them. He has never had a problem in this class before. He loves math and he is good at it. Personally, I would have let him sit there but set conditions like you have to work and not bother the other kids. Maybe he didn't want to sit in front of the class today. On the other hand, maybe he wanted to sit there so he could cause trouble but to me it was a battle that didn't need to start. I grounded him for the namecalling and yelling but kind of feel bad because I don't think any of this should have happened in the first place. Do I let him have some freedom or do I not? Sometimes it is such a fine line that I don't know what to do. Suggestions anyone???