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<blockquote data-quote="mollyzuzu" data-source="post: 714703" data-attributes="member: 21853"><p>HI, can't get new thearapists, the AODA is through the county social workers and the Trauma therapist is hired through the county. I guess it is not so much let him do what he wants because it will hurt his feelings, but let him be more indpendant to build up self confidence and trust. I had him "so pinned" down a year ago, he couldn't smeeze without me knowing it. I could not trust one move he made, but watching him constantly just really did a number on the both of us. Now, hubby and I are supposed to "talk" things our with him, so we can build up trust and safety which seems to be working ever so slowly. BUT, I do not agree with the smoking of pot either inside or outside of my house, I just wasn't raised that way. And the therapist mentality, is come half way, he is going to do it anyway, so let him do it outside. My thoughts are, well, if the cops catch him, well then it's up to Juvy. Not pleasant, but a reality. It is giving son choices and giving him the indpendance he so much wants.</p><p></p><p>I cannot give him a phone or computer access, he will sit there and search porn and drugs for hours. He has found a way to go through the xbox to converse with friends and I think he can get online too somehow. If he would only use his inginuity for productive things.</p><p></p><p>He had been seeing adoption counselors, but he WONT TALK, just sits there. We had gone to one for almost two years, she finally threw up her hands and referred us to another colleague, which he WONT TALK TO AT ALL and won't even go to.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mollyzuzu, post: 714703, member: 21853"] HI, can't get new thearapists, the AODA is through the county social workers and the Trauma therapist is hired through the county. I guess it is not so much let him do what he wants because it will hurt his feelings, but let him be more indpendant to build up self confidence and trust. I had him "so pinned" down a year ago, he couldn't smeeze without me knowing it. I could not trust one move he made, but watching him constantly just really did a number on the both of us. Now, hubby and I are supposed to "talk" things our with him, so we can build up trust and safety which seems to be working ever so slowly. BUT, I do not agree with the smoking of pot either inside or outside of my house, I just wasn't raised that way. And the therapist mentality, is come half way, he is going to do it anyway, so let him do it outside. My thoughts are, well, if the cops catch him, well then it's up to Juvy. Not pleasant, but a reality. It is giving son choices and giving him the indpendance he so much wants. I cannot give him a phone or computer access, he will sit there and search porn and drugs for hours. He has found a way to go through the xbox to converse with friends and I think he can get online too somehow. If he would only use his inginuity for productive things. He had been seeing adoption counselors, but he WONT TALK, just sits there. We had gone to one for almost two years, she finally threw up her hands and referred us to another colleague, which he WONT TALK TO AT ALL and won't even go to. [/QUOTE]
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