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<blockquote data-quote="everywoman" data-source="post: 18656" data-attributes="member: 1436"><p>Hello FA-Welcome back. It is really difficult to begin to trust again when you have been disappointed time and time again. My difficult child visited this weekend for the first time since he left for recovery, and I still panic just thinking about what we went through with him last year. I think that they have to prove, little by little, that they are changing. I take it one day at a time---okay, he stayed clean today. I don't hope for tomorrow yet. It's still a day to day thing. It probably will be for a long time. I know that husband got clean five years ago---and there are still nights I wake up and have to make sure he is still in the house. The support that I have gotten here has helped me make it through. I realize that I can't control anything anyone else does---just my reactions to their actions. That helps. It takes the pressure off of me to "do" anything. It helps me to still love them, warts and all. It has taken me years to get to this place, but it was well worth the journey. Read up on detachment and co-dependency. Placing the responsibility of their lives on their shoulders frees yours up to carry your own burdens.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="everywoman, post: 18656, member: 1436"] Hello FA-Welcome back. It is really difficult to begin to trust again when you have been disappointed time and time again. My difficult child visited this weekend for the first time since he left for recovery, and I still panic just thinking about what we went through with him last year. I think that they have to prove, little by little, that they are changing. I take it one day at a time---okay, he stayed clean today. I don't hope for tomorrow yet. It's still a day to day thing. It probably will be for a long time. I know that husband got clean five years ago---and there are still nights I wake up and have to make sure he is still in the house. The support that I have gotten here has helped me make it through. I realize that I can't control anything anyone else does---just my reactions to their actions. That helps. It takes the pressure off of me to "do" anything. It helps me to still love them, warts and all. It has taken me years to get to this place, but it was well worth the journey. Read up on detachment and co-dependency. Placing the responsibility of their lives on their shoulders frees yours up to carry your own burdens. [/QUOTE]
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