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<blockquote data-quote="PiperThree" data-source="post: 9542" data-attributes="member: 3042"><p>We've lived with difficult child when he was on medications the entire time - he had regular appointments with his pediatrician and his psychologist/psychiatrist and also the doctor in charge of his medications. granted, he only saw that doctor 2x a year so of course the doctor isn't going to "get" what you tell him in a 15 minute appointment about how he was on such and such a date when this that or the other thing was agitating him or making him angry so who the heck knows if any of the medications did any good at any time. He's always been violent and defiant - either violent to himself, the bedroom door, the hallway walls or to his husband and bio mom. He never used his arms or fists or anything on me but he did throw something at me twice - once 4 days before his last day in our home and once the last day before he was removed. That's what we are having a hard time with - he's had medication evaluations in the past and stuff was prescribed, dosages tweaked, blah blah blah but nothing ever seemed to control his moods. And he's been on multiple drugs at the same time. Either the dosages are too low or the correct combo still hasn't been found yet. The whole reason why we refused to allow him to continue living with us was after 2 1/2 years of daily emotional and mental abuse by him and trying every dang thing under the sun to help him, nothing was changing except he was getting bigger, harder to restrain and even more frightening. Here the second foster family lasted 1 month and 3 days and they were so afraid for their safety they refused to take him back. </p><p></p><p>I guess the only saving grace in this whole mess is that he finally showed his true colors to someone other than us and our families. Now no one can give us the whole "but he's so good when he's _______" speech anymore. Enough adults and strangers have seen him in action the last 5 days to prove that husband and I didn't make all this up. I don't know what will happen tomorrow but hopefully we'll find out where he's landed this time. We were told by last FM that the one before (last summer) heard about difficult child being removed from the home and volunteered to take him back. She's in for a rude awakening if she really thinks he'll be "such a good boy" again to her. Once he gets comfortable with someone/family, he shows his real side. This is awful to say but I am glad he isn't coming back to our house. husband and I mentally can't take it anymore.</p><p></p><p>thanks for being here girls - I appreciate you more than you know.</p><p></p><p>Piper</p><p></p><p>oh, a couple more things - difficult child has been hospitalized - a total of 7 times. when he was living with bio mom he was so out of control for him she was afraid what he would do to the other kids and was able to get him admitted to hospitals. they were psychiatric hospitals too. the longest stay he had was 6 weeks - that's all insurance would cover. we've tried to have him admitted and the hospitals here refused him because they made us wait 11 hours in the ER and by that time he was calm and stable. he's been on medications since he was 6 years old. Lived with bio mom from 6-10 and came to live with husband and I 10 days before his 11th birthday.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PiperThree, post: 9542, member: 3042"] We've lived with difficult child when he was on medications the entire time - he had regular appointments with his pediatrician and his psychologist/psychiatrist and also the doctor in charge of his medications. granted, he only saw that doctor 2x a year so of course the doctor isn't going to "get" what you tell him in a 15 minute appointment about how he was on such and such a date when this that or the other thing was agitating him or making him angry so who the heck knows if any of the medications did any good at any time. He's always been violent and defiant - either violent to himself, the bedroom door, the hallway walls or to his husband and bio mom. He never used his arms or fists or anything on me but he did throw something at me twice - once 4 days before his last day in our home and once the last day before he was removed. That's what we are having a hard time with - he's had medication evaluations in the past and stuff was prescribed, dosages tweaked, blah blah blah but nothing ever seemed to control his moods. And he's been on multiple drugs at the same time. Either the dosages are too low or the correct combo still hasn't been found yet. The whole reason why we refused to allow him to continue living with us was after 2 1/2 years of daily emotional and mental abuse by him and trying every dang thing under the sun to help him, nothing was changing except he was getting bigger, harder to restrain and even more frightening. Here the second foster family lasted 1 month and 3 days and they were so afraid for their safety they refused to take him back. I guess the only saving grace in this whole mess is that he finally showed his true colors to someone other than us and our families. Now no one can give us the whole "but he's so good when he's _______" speech anymore. Enough adults and strangers have seen him in action the last 5 days to prove that husband and I didn't make all this up. I don't know what will happen tomorrow but hopefully we'll find out where he's landed this time. We were told by last FM that the one before (last summer) heard about difficult child being removed from the home and volunteered to take him back. She's in for a rude awakening if she really thinks he'll be "such a good boy" again to her. Once he gets comfortable with someone/family, he shows his real side. This is awful to say but I am glad he isn't coming back to our house. husband and I mentally can't take it anymore. thanks for being here girls - I appreciate you more than you know. Piper oh, a couple more things - difficult child has been hospitalized - a total of 7 times. when he was living with bio mom he was so out of control for him she was afraid what he would do to the other kids and was able to get him admitted to hospitals. they were psychiatric hospitals too. the longest stay he had was 6 weeks - that's all insurance would cover. we've tried to have him admitted and the hospitals here refused him because they made us wait 11 hours in the ER and by that time he was calm and stable. he's been on medications since he was 6 years old. Lived with bio mom from 6-10 and came to live with husband and I 10 days before his 11th birthday. [/QUOTE]
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