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It Just Keeps Getting Worse
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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 651648" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>I think that is a beautiful text that expresses your love and hope for her and draws clear boundaries. I do not think it is a mistake. I think we can't control how things are received once we release them, (or hit send), and she may not read it, or read all of it, or she may go ballistic. SHe is unlikely to think "oh, I see, she is right." </p><p>You told the truth in a beautiful and succinct way. I hope that made some little part of your soul rise up and breathe again.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>This would be my observation as well.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry you are afraid of losing your child. I'm afraid of losing all of my kids, the "appropriate" ones and the not so. It isn't a good way to have relationships (and so far they show no signs of being lost, not even on days like today when I wish they would!)</p><p></p><p>CAn you find it in yourself to block her txts and calls for a while? I think it would give you some rest. You'll be surprised how peaceful it can be when the sound of your phone doesn't make you jump.</p><p></p><p>You too are addicted to your toxic interactions...you can't resist engaging over and over. This isn't your fault, or hers, it is part of the dopaminergic response of our brains to stimulation. If you can stop the stimulus it will help you stop seeking the negative thrill. </p><p></p><p>I have hope for you . I have hope for your daughter too, and if you are going to help her this is really your best next step.</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 651648, member: 17269"] I think that is a beautiful text that expresses your love and hope for her and draws clear boundaries. I do not think it is a mistake. I think we can't control how things are received once we release them, (or hit send), and she may not read it, or read all of it, or she may go ballistic. SHe is unlikely to think "oh, I see, she is right." You told the truth in a beautiful and succinct way. I hope that made some little part of your soul rise up and breathe again. This would be my observation as well. I am sorry you are afraid of losing your child. I'm afraid of losing all of my kids, the "appropriate" ones and the not so. It isn't a good way to have relationships (and so far they show no signs of being lost, not even on days like today when I wish they would!) CAn you find it in yourself to block her txts and calls for a while? I think it would give you some rest. You'll be surprised how peaceful it can be when the sound of your phone doesn't make you jump. You too are addicted to your toxic interactions...you can't resist engaging over and over. This isn't your fault, or hers, it is part of the dopaminergic response of our brains to stimulation. If you can stop the stimulus it will help you stop seeking the negative thrill. I have hope for you . I have hope for your daughter too, and if you are going to help her this is really your best next step. Echo [/QUOTE]
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