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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 651679" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>WearyMom, I did not start out knowing all this stuff. I learned as I went along. You will too. And of course you will be able to help others.</p><p></p><p>I think right now, in the beginning, the most important thing is to get facetime therapy, whether it is free help, as in Al-Anon or a private therapist. This would be for YOUR benefit while you walk this horrible journey. There are ways to make it bearable. (Yes, really!!!!) There are incredible coping skills and ways of thinking that didn't even dawn on me without getting help. I owe so many people so much, so I like to give back, if I can. I have no idea why it took me so long to understand that abuse is abuse and nobody has a right to abuse me, but I really t hought:</p><p></p><p>1/I deserved it</p><p></p><p>2/ The crazy allegations about me were true because somebody said so</p><p></p><p>3/ I had to put up with ANYTHING my child did because that's what a mother does.</p><p></p><p>I had a load of unlearning to do. My oldest and probably my most long-term problem is now 37 years old, so I SHOULD be a bit down the trail by now <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>I also had a terrible famly-of-origin so I learned to let go of toxic people. Letting go of DNA is shocking to some people. But they do't live our lives or walk in our shoes. I learned not to talk to too many people about what I had gone through as a child and even older or with my own children. What does Cedar say?</p><p></p><p>"What others think about me is none of my business." Cedar, help me out here (Cedar is awesome). Cedar, I know I have this wrong, and what you say is SOOOO GOOD! What is it???</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 651679, member: 1550"] WearyMom, I did not start out knowing all this stuff. I learned as I went along. You will too. And of course you will be able to help others. I think right now, in the beginning, the most important thing is to get facetime therapy, whether it is free help, as in Al-Anon or a private therapist. This would be for YOUR benefit while you walk this horrible journey. There are ways to make it bearable. (Yes, really!!!!) There are incredible coping skills and ways of thinking that didn't even dawn on me without getting help. I owe so many people so much, so I like to give back, if I can. I have no idea why it took me so long to understand that abuse is abuse and nobody has a right to abuse me, but I really t hought: 1/I deserved it 2/ The crazy allegations about me were true because somebody said so 3/ I had to put up with ANYTHING my child did because that's what a mother does. I had a load of unlearning to do. My oldest and probably my most long-term problem is now 37 years old, so I SHOULD be a bit down the trail by now :) I also had a terrible famly-of-origin so I learned to let go of toxic people. Letting go of DNA is shocking to some people. But they do't live our lives or walk in our shoes. I learned not to talk to too many people about what I had gone through as a child and even older or with my own children. What does Cedar say? "What others think about me is none of my business." Cedar, help me out here (Cedar is awesome). Cedar, I know I have this wrong, and what you say is SOOOO GOOD! What is it??? [/QUOTE]
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