I realize it's best for me at this point to just cut out all contact with my 23 year old son. Any type of conversation or attempt just to speak to him is futile. He has hung up on me the last time. My mailbox is being inundated with Toll Road Fee violations, letters from attorneys (the accident he claims that someone backed into his car while parked at a friends was a total lie). He ran into the back of someone and now letters from that persons attorney are showing up in my mailbox. I have to write "Return to Sender, Not At this address" on them. Toll road violation notices, declined credit applications (proof he has run out of money and blown his entire inheritance as he is trying to get credit). I am just shocked at how stupid my son is and the hole he keeps digging is getting deeper and deeper. I reached out again today to tell him it's obvious he lied about wrecking his car and now the person he hit obtained an attorney and he will be sued as I'm sure he isn't paying for insurance (He lied and said he was but he has no money so how can he). He got agitated with me and hung up on me. No surprise anymore. Are drug addicts just on a mission to totally ruin their lives? How can ANYONE live like this? He is driving a car with a suspended drivers license, no insurance, had a wreck, blew thru $30K, does nothing but get wasted night and after night and couch surf, and lies - oh my God the lies..... when I corner him in lies and tell him to stop lying to me... CLICK - he hangs up. Right now I've come to the conclusion he is headed to one or two places. Jail or an early grave. I almost wish he would end up in jail because there he would have to detox and be forced to sit and think about his choices, but the Houston jails are the worst in the nation and inmates do not receive proper care or treatment. He has been there twice and survived but it didn't phase him, he joked about how the other inmates couldn't believe he was in there for misdemeanor pot charges. He had a chance a while back to get his life together when he received a $30K inheritance. He paid off his bills and attorneys fees then he just went on this wild spending spree, bought a car and it's been a non-stop party ever since to spend every last dime. Now he is totally broke and back in debt and facing trouble with this latest accident he got in. When I talked to him last, I really got a sense of his mindset. I honestly think he has some mental issues and is not thinking rationally at all. I think he is into coke as he seemed so wired last time I talked to him. And every phone call he is impatient, in the middle of getting food or doing something and "can't talk right now" then hangs up on me. I'm done trying to even keep tabs on him. He is seriously in trouble and something bad is going to happen soon. He can't keep breaking the law and running from his troubles. He lies so much I don't think he even thinks before he speaks - he just spews lies. I've never been thru such torment in my life. It's impossible to completely ignore this and be happy. I'm doing what everyone says - detaching, focusing on me but it's my only child and he is slowly torturing me as I know I'm going to get that call he's headed to jail or prison or he's overdosed and died. My face is really starting to show signs of a mom who has been put thru hell. I don't recognize myself anymore.