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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 674475" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>SeaGenie, I wish it was different for us. Really, I do. </p><p></p><p>But the only way to get through this is to first to acknowledge that what is happening really is happening. It is as bad as it seems and the longer that you are vicariously going through it with him you will suffer unnecessarily and it will not help. </p><p></p><p>You must disengage. As long as your son is on drugs, the drug rather than your son is driving his life. Anybody along for the ride will suffer more than he is suffering. For much of the time he is not feeling the effects. You suffer 24 hours a day. Seven days a week. </p><p></p><p>Serenity wrote the truth. Every day thousands of people stop using. But it is not their Mom who determines this. When they stop or how.</p><p></p><p>There is no rhyme nor reason. It could have been 100k. There are Hollywood Stars who go through millions. And stop. Many of them. Two I can think of right now because they are my favorites are Tony Bennett and the singer, I cannot believe I forget his name because I adore him, but his last name is Cohen. That's it, Leonard Cohen. </p><p></p><p>And Anthony Bourdain the Chef and Food writer I like, for over 20 years ago was a heroin addict. Now he is a star on CNN. His mother went nearly crazy with anguish. She was a journalist for the New York Times.</p><p></p><p>Our sons are adults now. Not our baby boys. Adult men. He is living his life. You need to live your own and recognize it is not tethered to your son's. </p><p></p><p>I am learning to do this. My son has a chronic illness. I have faced that he might not outlive me. While I used to believe I could not survive this, now I realize I will if I have to. </p><p></p><p>But I have to live. And I want to live well.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 674475, member: 18958"] SeaGenie, I wish it was different for us. Really, I do. But the only way to get through this is to first to acknowledge that what is happening really is happening. It is as bad as it seems and the longer that you are vicariously going through it with him you will suffer unnecessarily and it will not help. You must disengage. As long as your son is on drugs, the drug rather than your son is driving his life. Anybody along for the ride will suffer more than he is suffering. For much of the time he is not feeling the effects. You suffer 24 hours a day. Seven days a week. Serenity wrote the truth. Every day thousands of people stop using. But it is not their Mom who determines this. When they stop or how. There is no rhyme nor reason. It could have been 100k. There are Hollywood Stars who go through millions. And stop. Many of them. Two I can think of right now because they are my favorites are Tony Bennett and the singer, I cannot believe I forget his name because I adore him, but his last name is Cohen. That's it, Leonard Cohen. And Anthony Bourdain the Chef and Food writer I like, for over 20 years ago was a heroin addict. Now he is a star on CNN. His mother went nearly crazy with anguish. She was a journalist for the New York Times. Our sons are adults now. Not our baby boys. Adult men. He is living his life. You need to live your own and recognize it is not tethered to your son's. I am learning to do this. My son has a chronic illness. I have faced that he might not outlive me. While I used to believe I could not survive this, now I realize I will if I have to. But I have to live. And I want to live well. COPA [/QUOTE]
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