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It Just Keeps Getting Worse...
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<blockquote data-quote="Tymica" data-source="post: 674538" data-attributes="member: 17612"><p>I struggled with this for the entire time my son and I had no contact. Granted, it wasn't a long time (about 3 months). But it didn't help that his bio dad called and told me basically that if I wanted peace, I guess I could have it when my son was dead because I wouldn't help him (same guy who has never ever paid a dime in child support mind you). What it came down to for me was this-- I love my son, I want the best for him. The door was open for him when he chose to treat me like I would expect anyone else to treat me: with some respect as a fellow human being. But just because I talked to him and made sure he knew I loved him didn't mean he would choose to change. So periodically, I would just text or message and say "Hey, love you." the end. I love you with no conditions, no care about your addiction or what is really going on because you're just going to lie anyway, etc... Of course, he is still struggling and nothing I do will change that. But that little contact let me have the peace I needed because it kept the door cracked, and if the day ever comes that he does decide to change, he knows I haven't turned my back on him, only on the drama his addiction causes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tymica, post: 674538, member: 17612"] I struggled with this for the entire time my son and I had no contact. Granted, it wasn't a long time (about 3 months). But it didn't help that his bio dad called and told me basically that if I wanted peace, I guess I could have it when my son was dead because I wouldn't help him (same guy who has never ever paid a dime in child support mind you). What it came down to for me was this-- I love my son, I want the best for him. The door was open for him when he chose to treat me like I would expect anyone else to treat me: with some respect as a fellow human being. But just because I talked to him and made sure he knew I loved him didn't mean he would choose to change. So periodically, I would just text or message and say "Hey, love you." the end. I love you with no conditions, no care about your addiction or what is really going on because you're just going to lie anyway, etc... Of course, he is still struggling and nothing I do will change that. But that little contact let me have the peace I needed because it kept the door cracked, and if the day ever comes that he does decide to change, he knows I haven't turned my back on him, only on the drama his addiction causes. [/QUOTE]
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