My son moved to another state about a month ago with a friend who is trying to help him. Difficult Child found a job at a bar and restaurant working 4 until about midnight. His friend called me today and filled me in on an incident. A few nights ago the bar was broken into. Surveillance video showed a white male with a bandana over his face and wearing black shoes. They questioned the employees. They had my son go for a lie detector test which he failed. He was adamant that it was not him. Cops let him go but were knocking on the door last night and wanted to search the house for black shoes. They took a pair and the cops were supposed to call Difficult Child’s friend today to return them, so I don’t know what the results of that were. Supposedly my son talked to the manager at the restaurant and all seems well between them and he still has his job. (I may have some of the chronological order of these wrong but I was taking in a lot during the conversation) Did my Difficult Child do it? I have no idea. He’s lied to us many times in the past. He’s stolen from us and his previous employer here. I would think if they looked into his records from this state they would see that prior conviction (no jail time…just parole and to pay retribution). I think his friend just needed someone to talk to which is why he called me. This friend is a great guy, hard worker, and just moved to start a new job in a new town. My Difficult Child went with him to get away from the toxic environment he created here for himself. I basically told his friend to kick him out if anything else happens…to set some limits and that if it were me, if the cops come knocking again or he does the slightest thing to get himself in trouble, he’s gone. That probably sounded harsh to Difficult Child’s friend but he knows the history of my Difficult Child and me and my husband. As with most of you, it’s hard to imagine how these Difficult Child’s can manage to blow every opportunity that comes their way and all the second chances they are given. Although I’m saddened to hear of the incident above, I’m not surprised and I’m not letting it ruin my day. I know there is nothing I can do for my son. I’ve instilled, or tried to instill, in him good values and to know right from wrong. The decisions he makes as an adult have nothing to do with me. I’m more angry over the fact that these issues keep popping into my life. I do think if his friend throws him out I won’t hear from my Difficult Child. He’s never been one to call or ask me for stuff when he’s in trouble. In a way, not knowing anything would be a blessing. I felt like telling his friend I don’t want to know what goes on in his life, but I feel his friend needed someone to vent to. Time to go play with the doggies and push this all from my mind. Sorry for the long, rambling post. I tend to do this. Really helps me even if no one reads it.