I"m back, went to volunteer in the school library, then took Q to his therapy session and then we went to eat together.
OK, yes it is an entire special education school for our district that goes from elementary through highschool. It is an EBD school and they are saying they added this program to be a school within a school... but still the staff there is EBD. They say that the school is full of neurobiological behavior disorders, well that is what they told me with the program that Q was abused in and then the classes that our home district at the time modeled after that class so we moved.
So, this class is called a "students with unique needs 2" class.... SUN2 SUN1 is a class for low verbal, behavior challenged mostly Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids. SUN 2 is supposed to be a mixture of cogntive delay, Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), ebd, Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI), Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS), blah blah blah.... They say they have some Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) training whatever the heck that means.
So, I get an email from the sp ed coordinator after jsut telling me yesterday (along with the principal from hell and all of the admin and teachers there saying that I should spend an entire day there), that I can have a tour from 12:30 to 1:30 on Thursday. Are you freaking kidding me??? I can just see it now... they ahve finished lunch and are sitting all nice and in their rooms...
I am being taken around to see the nice gym, cafeteria, told how great the kids do and how they never use any restraints unless necessary and all teh same old bs.
I will then get a couple of minutes in the class.
I told them hell no. They said the school has policies like that due to the nature of the challenges. I said it would never be safe for me as a parent to place my child in a program that wont allow the risk of a parent seeing how they handle discipline and transitions. They said I have to arrange all visits one day before the visit at least. That I can come back for other short visits. Now this school is at the end of our LARGE district. (yes steely, I am in a huge metro area and we have 20 elementary schools 6 middle schools and 6 high schools, also three special needs schools... two are transition programs and the other one is this school... it is two cities away.)
My law advocate called and said she was going to lodge a complaint against the principal on her own, not even from me, but because she thought he was so out of line. She said the superintendent called the dir of sp ed and they both said to apologize to me and that they will be calling the principal in for a meeting. The sp ed director said that she was told by the sp ed coordinator that she has been working with the principal this whole time trying to get him to be less confrontational since we had a good working relationship and if he had once said that he was concerned and needed help in what to do because of abc concerns..but he just swooped in and turned the team into us against you.
I saw the behavior specialist that comes to our school and runs the bip and I told her next time we have an IEP one of them must show up even if they are double booked. That this principal thinks I wrote the plan myself, placed Q in this setting myself etc.. he is really rude about it all. I told her one of you guys needs to be assertive and stand up and tell the truth about all of this. I am sick of it.
I sent an email to the sp ed coordinator saying that if this school is unwilling to risk a parent seeing their discipline techniques then dont hold your breath waiting for me to even consider this school for a second.
Q told me.he would rather die than go through this all. I said to talk to K his therapist about it. Well by the time he got there he was over it and had an amazing session with her. He discovered cray pas (sp?)and loved coloring and rubbing his hands in it and he smoothed it all out. He asked her if he could color while they talked and she was fine with that. He told me before we got there he had to see her because she calms him down and makes him feel better. She worked on relaxation with him and he told her he would do it but wanted it to be fast. she tried twice and he said ok can this be the last time because I told you I am not liking it. She said he was so great about using his words...he usually is, may not be the nicest words but if you listen to them he is working it out and letting you know what will help. She had some ideas for working with him too that I liked and have been using.
Like instead of good job etc. which ticks him off... just narrating a few things each day... while he is sitting playing... cool, you are playing uno online. now adding when he is getting out of the car nicely..AS he is doing it... giving a direction so he is complying accidentally, and it works! so funny he is not able to refuse because it is nearly done anyway. I do it little bit by little bit because he would catch on. He has said thanks and ok because he has no choice really... kind of funny.