Hi all - I haven't posted in a long time- I think it's mostly because of all the ups and downs - just when things are looking better - another setback happens and Im back to the beginning. It's been a long summer/fall. difficult child got out of rehab in the Spring - they lying and relapsing began 3 weeks later - seems like he would pull it together for a few weeks every now and then but spent most of the Spring using what he considered to be "non harmful" drugs or alcohol - you know the "fun" stuff...."trippin". He finally was able to pull himself together for a longer stretch when a friend went to rehab. He and his girlfriend who is a stabilizing force, were doing great and he was too. It finally seemed like he was ready to move forward in life. It was the best I had seen him in 3 years and we complimented him on his progress and told him how nice it was to be getting our son back - how much we missed him. But the bottom dropped out when they broke up and he went on a week long bender - his home behavior was OUTRAGEOUS and scary and he lost all the progress he was making. So now, he's off to rehab again - court ordered this time. He will turn 18 while he is there and Im sad about the potential outcome this time. I will take things one step at a time, but he crossed many lines this time and I don't know if it's ok for him to return to our home. He is disrespectful, breaks things in anger, doesn't do his school work, clean his room, eat anything nutritious, etc....you get the picture. I have never seen him fully committed to recovery and I doubt I will this time. It's been a long time - there has been a lot of chaos and hurt. Praying that this new place helps us to find some answers that work for all of us.