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<blockquote data-quote="db52" data-source="post: 62127" data-attributes="member: 3934"><p>Hi Suz! I was hoping you would remember me. Hello Fran, too. And to everyone else.</p><p></p><p>I am feeling a little better today - I have those bad days once in a while - probably because I wonder if anything happens to us, what will become of Ian. Having his current girlfriend makes me feel much better and it's probably their living situation which will change next summer that is making me a little off the wall (that and menopause - phew, what next). She will graduate from college and then they are both looking forward to coming back to our area. Of course, she comes from a very dysfunctional family and her grandparents are trying to support three grown children and all their grandchildren and while they have money, it is taking a real emotional toll on her grandfather. They have decided to rent their house, move to a small mobile home for the summers and then travel in the winters so they can't take anyone else into their home. So long story short, Ian and his girlfriend will probably be coming back to live with us. So hopefully, we can build a little addition to our garage and they can live over it but the economy being what it is, well, the house is big enough to fit them but we all know what living in the same house is like. So, I'm trying to convince myself to cross that bridge when I come to it and just live for the day.</p><p></p><p>Ian is a really sensitive, talkative guy but he is still so hypersensitive that it is that that pushes him over the edge. His girlfriend has a pet rabbit which he worries endlessly about - "why isn't he eating, is he sick, I wish we never got him because I can't stop worrying about him." It is that obsessing that you have to not listen to and then even he forgets it. But overall I am very happy with his progress or I should say stabilization because I think the progress will come when he tries to work on at least a more frequent basis. His psychiatrist says he has failed so many times that he may be afraid of trying again. He also has begun to treat Ian alone - meaning that we used to all go in together but Ian wouldn't say anything. Then we went through the stage that Ian just went in alone and still wouldn't not say anything. Pretty expensive silence. But the County Mental Health Unit which is covered did not do anything but encourage him to stop taking his medications. I know that sounds hard to believe but that is what happened. Last winter Ian realized he needed something so when he came home this summer (they are currently living with her grandparents until they leave in the fall) he went back to the private psychiatrist. At least he will see him for half hours instead of whole hours and a lot gets accomplished. The trade off was Ian was supposed to work with his Dad to offset the costs but he freaked out and couldn't take the stress so I told his girlfriend, since she was working and was agreeing with Ian that he didn't need to work if it upset him, she would have to make the payments. Of course, that didn't go over too well but he is now making progress with the psychiatrist and taking his medications. So if I have to be the bad guy to get positive results, I've got no problem doing that.</p><p></p><p>I'm rambling - but I really do appreciate your words of support and always tear up when I first visit again after so long. I'm willing to add my experiences whenever I can to make another mom or dad feel as good as I always did when someone would add a shoulder for me here. Love you guys, Diane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="db52, post: 62127, member: 3934"] Hi Suz! I was hoping you would remember me. Hello Fran, too. And to everyone else. I am feeling a little better today - I have those bad days once in a while - probably because I wonder if anything happens to us, what will become of Ian. Having his current girlfriend makes me feel much better and it's probably their living situation which will change next summer that is making me a little off the wall (that and menopause - phew, what next). She will graduate from college and then they are both looking forward to coming back to our area. Of course, she comes from a very dysfunctional family and her grandparents are trying to support three grown children and all their grandchildren and while they have money, it is taking a real emotional toll on her grandfather. They have decided to rent their house, move to a small mobile home for the summers and then travel in the winters so they can't take anyone else into their home. So long story short, Ian and his girlfriend will probably be coming back to live with us. So hopefully, we can build a little addition to our garage and they can live over it but the economy being what it is, well, the house is big enough to fit them but we all know what living in the same house is like. So, I'm trying to convince myself to cross that bridge when I come to it and just live for the day. Ian is a really sensitive, talkative guy but he is still so hypersensitive that it is that that pushes him over the edge. His girlfriend has a pet rabbit which he worries endlessly about - "why isn't he eating, is he sick, I wish we never got him because I can't stop worrying about him." It is that obsessing that you have to not listen to and then even he forgets it. But overall I am very happy with his progress or I should say stabilization because I think the progress will come when he tries to work on at least a more frequent basis. His psychiatrist says he has failed so many times that he may be afraid of trying again. He also has begun to treat Ian alone - meaning that we used to all go in together but Ian wouldn't say anything. Then we went through the stage that Ian just went in alone and still wouldn't not say anything. Pretty expensive silence. But the County Mental Health Unit which is covered did not do anything but encourage him to stop taking his medications. I know that sounds hard to believe but that is what happened. Last winter Ian realized he needed something so when he came home this summer (they are currently living with her grandparents until they leave in the fall) he went back to the private psychiatrist. At least he will see him for half hours instead of whole hours and a lot gets accomplished. The trade off was Ian was supposed to work with his Dad to offset the costs but he freaked out and couldn't take the stress so I told his girlfriend, since she was working and was agreeing with Ian that he didn't need to work if it upset him, she would have to make the payments. Of course, that didn't go over too well but he is now making progress with the psychiatrist and taking his medications. So if I have to be the bad guy to get positive results, I've got no problem doing that. I'm rambling - but I really do appreciate your words of support and always tear up when I first visit again after so long. I'm willing to add my experiences whenever I can to make another mom or dad feel as good as I always did when someone would add a shoulder for me here. Love you guys, Diane [/QUOTE]
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