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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 62132" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Being the bad guy is what we seem to have to be at this point. </p><p>I asked my difficult child if he wanted me to just stop all the nudges. He said no. He knows that if I didn't nudge him, he would end up not moving forward. So he blames me and rages at times, he acknowledged he needs me to do this for him.</p><p></p><p>I also offered to have him move home. He said it was tempting but he thinks it would be too easy to never become more independent. He has come a long way but he has a long way to go.</p><p></p><p>He verbalized Friday that he may want to try a vocational program because he doesn't want to be known as the guy with learning disabilities that almost dismisses him as having anymore value. I think he is conquering his anxiety but he has a lot of obstacles yet. </p><p></p><p>Our kids don't have easy lives. Some of it is their neurobiology, some of it is their personalities and some of it is their anxiety. I wish I could unravel which was which so that I can hold him accountable for those things he could control and change. </p><p></p><p>I'm glad you feel like you can be "at home" when you stop here. Stick around. I'm sure I'll have a really crappy day next week or even tomorrow.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 62132, member: 3"] Being the bad guy is what we seem to have to be at this point. I asked my difficult child if he wanted me to just stop all the nudges. He said no. He knows that if I didn't nudge him, he would end up not moving forward. So he blames me and rages at times, he acknowledged he needs me to do this for him. I also offered to have him move home. He said it was tempting but he thinks it would be too easy to never become more independent. He has come a long way but he has a long way to go. He verbalized Friday that he may want to try a vocational program because he doesn't want to be known as the guy with learning disabilities that almost dismisses him as having anymore value. I think he is conquering his anxiety but he has a lot of obstacles yet. Our kids don't have easy lives. Some of it is their neurobiology, some of it is their personalities and some of it is their anxiety. I wish I could unravel which was which so that I can hold him accountable for those things he could control and change. I'm glad you feel like you can be "at home" when you stop here. Stick around. I'm sure I'll have a really crappy day next week or even tomorrow. [/QUOTE]
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