dstc_99
Well-Known Member
So over the past 6-8 months difficult child has gone from just being mean to harming herself by choking. Some of you may remember that the choking started while she was with her boyfriend and was having difficulty with him. Basically anytime he didn't do what she said or wanted she would lose her temper and wind up choking herself. The day I found out about all this I took her to the ER and basically told him to go home. It was obvious to me that the relationship was not healthy but in difficult child's mind he was her only reason to live. (PS I think this constitues her considering suicide but her therapist swears she isn't planning that.)
Skip to a few weeks later he breaks up with her because he can't handle it.
Skip a few more weeks and they are back together. I laid down the law and said they couldn't be at his house because difficult child has self harmed at his house on three occasions. His mother has some supervisory deficits and I don't trust her to ensure they are making good decisions.
Skip again and the girls and guys he hung out with prior to meeting difficult child are making her life a living hell. They don't want the boyfriend with her because then he doesn't party with them. difficult child winds up having to leave school for the day because of the drama. Apparently the principals stepped in and helped with this.
Skip again and they break up because he is cheating on her with one of the girls that was making her life a living hell. difficult child winds up having to leave school because she can't handle this.
Now here we are two weeks later and guess what? (this is where you fake surprise) They are possibly getting back together. ARGH!!!! Seriously!!! difficult child can not handle the drama with him and his friends. He has convinced her the texts and pictures that proved he was cheating all occured during their break up. Honestly it isn't the boyfriend I dont like, even though I am learning to like him less and less after each event. It is the boyfriend's friends who torture my daughter, it is the fact that difficult child goes in headfirst and excludes everyone from her life but him, it is the inevitable breakdown and drama the occurs when it all goes wrong. What I don't like most of all about him is that he isn't thinking about difficult child. He wants a girl that he knows is broken even though he knows that being in a relationship with him breaks her more. If he loved her so much he would care enough not to put her in harms way. Right?
I know I cant protect difficult child from the world or boys but seriously at what point do you not see a pattern? I realize I am talking about two teenagers who can't see past the end of their proverbial noses so I am expecting too much. I just don't know if I can handle boyfriend drama right now. I am afraid this will break me.
Skip to a few weeks later he breaks up with her because he can't handle it.
Skip a few more weeks and they are back together. I laid down the law and said they couldn't be at his house because difficult child has self harmed at his house on three occasions. His mother has some supervisory deficits and I don't trust her to ensure they are making good decisions.
Skip again and the girls and guys he hung out with prior to meeting difficult child are making her life a living hell. They don't want the boyfriend with her because then he doesn't party with them. difficult child winds up having to leave school for the day because of the drama. Apparently the principals stepped in and helped with this.
Skip again and they break up because he is cheating on her with one of the girls that was making her life a living hell. difficult child winds up having to leave school because she can't handle this.
Now here we are two weeks later and guess what? (this is where you fake surprise) They are possibly getting back together. ARGH!!!! Seriously!!! difficult child can not handle the drama with him and his friends. He has convinced her the texts and pictures that proved he was cheating all occured during their break up. Honestly it isn't the boyfriend I dont like, even though I am learning to like him less and less after each event. It is the boyfriend's friends who torture my daughter, it is the fact that difficult child goes in headfirst and excludes everyone from her life but him, it is the inevitable breakdown and drama the occurs when it all goes wrong. What I don't like most of all about him is that he isn't thinking about difficult child. He wants a girl that he knows is broken even though he knows that being in a relationship with him breaks her more. If he loved her so much he would care enough not to put her in harms way. Right?
I know I cant protect difficult child from the world or boys but seriously at what point do you not see a pattern? I realize I am talking about two teenagers who can't see past the end of their proverbial noses so I am expecting too much. I just don't know if I can handle boyfriend drama right now. I am afraid this will break me.
