It sounds like we are breaking up, LOL. So, just some quick background, difficult child is 3.5. He has all the signs of ODD and I am at my wits end. We have seen a therapist twice but he has not an official evaluation. I am pretty sure the therapist (Miss B) thinks he is a product of our opposite parenting. Which, he very well may be and probably is but in the meantime, he is still driving me mad! But, the more I talk in the sessions, the more she is trying to figure out ways to help me when I need ways to help him, if that makes any sense. She is interested in how we (husband and I) interact with one another and thinks he might be feeding off our negative energy when we argue or just feel disconnected because of our schedules (he works 2nd shift, I work mornings). We see her again on Thursday and I think I am just going to come right out and ask if he is getting an actual evaluation. She did make a comment that most kids are evaluation'd for ODD/ADHD etc, around age 4 or 5 and right now they are still learning, etc. We had an "intake?" In the meantime, difficult child is becoming more high maintenance with each passing day. I noticed that he acts up when I am not specifically paying attention to him (like making dinner, doing laundry, uhh pretty much ANYTHING). We visited my sister and he was all over the place. I was trying to have a conversation while all the kids played and there was just no way. I had to play a game with him and keep eye contact with him. It gets hard with the three kids and I cannot and refuse to ignore my daughters because he is throwing a fit or just being a nudge! I know it starts with us and I firmly believe we need a solid foundation of family to build anything on it but right now I have a very demanding three year old and I am only one person! That equals insanity if you ask me! I still have no idea what I am dealing with and it makes me want to scream!