Wee difficult child had a babysitter from the age of about 14 months to 5 years. She is my cousin by marriage. She had 2 boys of her own, one two years older than difficult child, and one 9 months older than difficult child. She also kept another boy who was about 6 months older than difficult child named John. difficult child has not stayed with her for over 18 months now, however, if you ask him who his friends are, these 3 boys are it. Because of his fixation on them as friends and the fact that he's not attending the same school as they are, we make a point to get together with them. *** John's parents are self-employed. They've been on board with difficult child from the start and invite him over, etc, despite the problems he can create. They are great. Yesterday, they asked difficult child to spend the day with them and John. Towards mid-afternoon, difficult child lost it, and started hitting on John. They handled it, but did tell me when they brought him home. I'm glad they did, because this was also a study in the "change of scenery" theory, wondering if he were some place else besides home and school, if the behavior would be the same. *** It was. Just thought I'd share.