SuZir
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And I'm afraid I will be granny with custody of said furbaby in two years.
difficult child and his girlfriend are having a puppy. They have already paid a retainer and puppies will be old enough to move to new homes in November. difficult child and husband had a riff over this earlier and neither has still got over it. husband thinks it is very irresponsible thing for difficult child to do and one more sign how immature and selfish he is. difficult child thinks husband is not having any faith on him. husband is also miffed that we may be looking for paying well over a grand a month for difficult child's therapy costs and in the same time he spends his money in to the dog. difficult child and girlfriend are buying a puppy together (which is always a stupid idea if you ask me, but no one does...) and paying it in half, still difficult child's part is not that much short of that grand and then there is of course insurances, other vet costs, equipments and food. And even if you forget the money (and if difficult child's therapy does get public funding we don't have any leg to stand on in that really) there is a problem of taking care of the puppy. Right now they are in ideal position to take care of it. difficult child has free time middle of the day in most days and girlfriend is a college student with flexible time table. But if they break up, difficult child has no chance to keep the puppy. girlfriend may have, at least first, but she will have for example a semester abroad ahead of her and usually college students with dogs end up sooner or later giving a dog to their parents, or at least needing them to dog sit a lot. This is a big phenomenon around here, so this is not really even difficult child thing, more a typical teen/TYA thing. Young couples move together, want to play family, get a dog and soon after break up or have another change of circumstances and a dog ends up to young couples parents. I can't even count how many of my friends have their kids' dogs living with them. girlfriend's mother is slightly allergic so in this case that leaves us to take care of the dog.
Of course we could say no to that, but I bet we are too attached to her at that point. So if I want to be smart, I better take this into account in my own dog plans. We currently have two family dogs. I have been planning to take a more active work dog in year or two, when our current dogs are in suitable situations for that. But our limit for dogs is three. And even that only temporarily. Two dogs is much better situation. So if I take a dog I want in year, in two years we can easily be in the situation where we have four dogs, two young (and too close in age), one middle aged and one elderly dog. Not a good combination at all.
Only good thing is, that they have at least been smart with the breed. They are taking standard size German Spitz (I think they/very similar breed except a colour is called American Eskimo Dog in USA.) Nice, healthy breed. Very good choice for them and their situation, especially when girlfriend doesn't have any dog experience and they are living in a flat without any yard. I'm little relieved they didn't go with current trend of taking American Bulldogs, Fila Brasileiros or other similar breeds to same kind of situation, like many (too, too many) young couples do. Well at least that difficult child did know better. Oh, and of course a puppy is incredibly cute.
Thinking again, there is other good thing. Hugely great thing in fact. It's not a furless baby. For that I thank all the possible higher powers. I'm not saying I wouldn't want to be granny one day, but I do very much hope that day is ten years in future...
difficult child and his girlfriend are having a puppy. They have already paid a retainer and puppies will be old enough to move to new homes in November. difficult child and husband had a riff over this earlier and neither has still got over it. husband thinks it is very irresponsible thing for difficult child to do and one more sign how immature and selfish he is. difficult child thinks husband is not having any faith on him. husband is also miffed that we may be looking for paying well over a grand a month for difficult child's therapy costs and in the same time he spends his money in to the dog. difficult child and girlfriend are buying a puppy together (which is always a stupid idea if you ask me, but no one does...) and paying it in half, still difficult child's part is not that much short of that grand and then there is of course insurances, other vet costs, equipments and food. And even if you forget the money (and if difficult child's therapy does get public funding we don't have any leg to stand on in that really) there is a problem of taking care of the puppy. Right now they are in ideal position to take care of it. difficult child has free time middle of the day in most days and girlfriend is a college student with flexible time table. But if they break up, difficult child has no chance to keep the puppy. girlfriend may have, at least first, but she will have for example a semester abroad ahead of her and usually college students with dogs end up sooner or later giving a dog to their parents, or at least needing them to dog sit a lot. This is a big phenomenon around here, so this is not really even difficult child thing, more a typical teen/TYA thing. Young couples move together, want to play family, get a dog and soon after break up or have another change of circumstances and a dog ends up to young couples parents. I can't even count how many of my friends have their kids' dogs living with them. girlfriend's mother is slightly allergic so in this case that leaves us to take care of the dog.
Of course we could say no to that, but I bet we are too attached to her at that point. So if I want to be smart, I better take this into account in my own dog plans. We currently have two family dogs. I have been planning to take a more active work dog in year or two, when our current dogs are in suitable situations for that. But our limit for dogs is three. And even that only temporarily. Two dogs is much better situation. So if I take a dog I want in year, in two years we can easily be in the situation where we have four dogs, two young (and too close in age), one middle aged and one elderly dog. Not a good combination at all.
Only good thing is, that they have at least been smart with the breed. They are taking standard size German Spitz (I think they/very similar breed except a colour is called American Eskimo Dog in USA.) Nice, healthy breed. Very good choice for them and their situation, especially when girlfriend doesn't have any dog experience and they are living in a flat without any yard. I'm little relieved they didn't go with current trend of taking American Bulldogs, Fila Brasileiros or other similar breeds to same kind of situation, like many (too, too many) young couples do. Well at least that difficult child did know better. Oh, and of course a puppy is incredibly cute.
Thinking again, there is other good thing. Hugely great thing in fact. It's not a furless baby. For that I thank all the possible higher powers. I'm not saying I wouldn't want to be granny one day, but I do very much hope that day is ten years in future...