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Its only getting worse...my kids will be homeless and in prison
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 641807" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>If you are susceptible to believing what people tell you, don't let them talk to you about your kids. Put a boundary up that you refuse to let them cross. They do not talk to you about yourself, the mistakes they have inside themselves that they project onto YOU and walk out of their homes or hang up the phone if they cross your boundary. Put them on "time outs" if they refuse to respect you. That means, no-contact for a day or so until they realize you are not going to tolerate their talk about how this is your fault.</p><p>Sounds like this could be partly your ex's DNA too working here.</p><p>At any rate, they can only make you doubt yourself if you listen to them and allow their words to be the truth. Do they have Ph.D's in psychology? If not, their advice is from cluelessness or the inability of them to admit that their taking up so much of your time and their own bad behavior is a huge part of your children's environment. I'd do all I could to refrain from conversing with the clueless blamers. Do the chores you feel you need to do in a quiet way and don't fuel the fire by adding to their criticism. Ignore it and move on.</p><p>The boundary thing is awesome and works if you are consistent. If you are not, that is your own decision, but it does cut off the criticism.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 641807, member: 1550"] If you are susceptible to believing what people tell you, don't let them talk to you about your kids. Put a boundary up that you refuse to let them cross. They do not talk to you about yourself, the mistakes they have inside themselves that they project onto YOU and walk out of their homes or hang up the phone if they cross your boundary. Put them on "time outs" if they refuse to respect you. That means, no-contact for a day or so until they realize you are not going to tolerate their talk about how this is your fault. Sounds like this could be partly your ex's DNA too working here. At any rate, they can only make you doubt yourself if you listen to them and allow their words to be the truth. Do they have Ph.D's in psychology? If not, their advice is from cluelessness or the inability of them to admit that their taking up so much of your time and their own bad behavior is a huge part of your children's environment. I'd do all I could to refrain from conversing with the clueless blamers. Do the chores you feel you need to do in a quiet way and don't fuel the fire by adding to their criticism. Ignore it and move on. The boundary thing is awesome and works if you are consistent. If you are not, that is your own decision, but it does cut off the criticism. [/QUOTE]
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