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Its only getting worse...my kids will be homeless and in prison
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 641810" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Or just ignore his babble. What does he know about your kids? He doesn't have the education to have a clue about them. And he isn't helping one bit. Tune him out. "La, la, la, I'm not listening" sing it in your head. I'm serious. And don't answer him at all so he has no fuel to continue. Don't defend yourself. Radio silence.</p><p></p><p>You can do what I did with my 90 year old father too. I don't know if you are brave enough to do so, but nobody your age should have so much illness that is stress related. I'm 61 and don't have half of what you do and I think it's because I act on it when something is stressing me out.</p><p></p><p>"Grandpa, I am glad to help care for you, but from now on, when I am in your house, you have to speak to me with respect and I will respect you too. If you don't, I'm sorry, but I will not stay there." Then be firm about it. At the first sign of abuse, leave. You have to be VERY diligent at first, but it does get easier as they learn the they have to accept your very reasonable and simple-to-follow boundary or find other help/company. It is not his right to make you doubt yourself. That makes it his choice to have your there or to not have you there. He can be respectful of you. There is nothing stopping him. And there is no reason to take abuse from anybody and I don't care how old he is or how sick he is. You are not cutting him off. You are giving him a reasonable option.</p><p></p><p>You can't help your children if others are making you doubt yourself. Think of it has helping your children. This grandfather has to right to be mean to you. And you don't have to chose to listen.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 641810, member: 1550"] Or just ignore his babble. What does he know about your kids? He doesn't have the education to have a clue about them. And he isn't helping one bit. Tune him out. "La, la, la, I'm not listening" sing it in your head. I'm serious. And don't answer him at all so he has no fuel to continue. Don't defend yourself. Radio silence. You can do what I did with my 90 year old father too. I don't know if you are brave enough to do so, but nobody your age should have so much illness that is stress related. I'm 61 and don't have half of what you do and I think it's because I act on it when something is stressing me out. "Grandpa, I am glad to help care for you, but from now on, when I am in your house, you have to speak to me with respect and I will respect you too. If you don't, I'm sorry, but I will not stay there." Then be firm about it. At the first sign of abuse, leave. You have to be VERY diligent at first, but it does get easier as they learn the they have to accept your very reasonable and simple-to-follow boundary or find other help/company. It is not his right to make you doubt yourself. That makes it his choice to have your there or to not have you there. He can be respectful of you. There is nothing stopping him. And there is no reason to take abuse from anybody and I don't care how old he is or how sick he is. You are not cutting him off. You are giving him a reasonable option. You can't help your children if others are making you doubt yourself. Think of it has helping your children. This grandfather has to right to be mean to you. And you don't have to chose to listen. [/QUOTE]
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