I have so much to thank the members of this forum for! Learning to detach and for the most part enjoy life is a process, sometimes a slow one. I know my son is hurting over the emotional draining from losing a loved one. Suicide leaves so many unanswered questions for the ones left behind. But, he has not changed, he is trying once again to suck me back into the chaos and drama of his life. I have had well meaning friends and family tell me I need to drop everything and go comfort him. He continues the dark texts and I text him he needs counseling and maybe medications that can help. What does he text back? I have medications, POT. It's useless, his sister has also tried to convince him that drugs only make mental illness worse. I just text that things will get better and you are loved. To which he replies, I always thought you hated me. I replied, just because people are different doesn't mean they don't love each other. I refuse to get sucked in, time to go entertain myself with CNN and embroidery lol!