Hello everyone,
I have found this site today because I was looking for some answers for the reason why my 4 year old daughter is well... hyper, full of tantrums, crying all the time, sometimes it feels like she's out of control.
Every since my daughter was 2 years old, I knew that she was an extermely hyper child. Everyone kept telling me that it was normal and just a stage that she is going through. However, that "stage" that she is going through is getting worse, and I feel like I'm failing as a mother.
Today has been the worst of them all. No matter what I do, she always cries, yells, and screams at me. She always talks back and doesn't listen.
I have noticed in the past couple weeks that she is extremely tired. She wakes up at 6am and will not fall asleep until 10pm. I try to have her lay down for naps or I tell her that it is quite time. She refuses. It's like her little brain is just going 50mph. I can see in her eyes that she is tired and I can tell by her actions as well, cranky, she yawns, she's winy, but never wants to sleep or rest. Bedtime is always a hasle for me. I repeatedly have to go in her room to put back in bed, she cries and tries to make up reasons why she doesn't have to go to sleep, and she'll ask me random questions about anything and eveything. Yeah she is only 4 and has alot of questions, but she doesn't stop. I've even tired to lay with her to comfort her, but all she does this try to play, then gets mad when I tell her that it is time to go to sleep.
She is at a point that she is stealing things from stores, daycare, and even grandma's house. Everytime I have caught her and always made HER return it, along with having her tell them what she had done. I tell her that stealing is bad and is against the law. However she continues to do it. She is also lying way to much, it could even be something so small and pointless.
When she has her fits, I try not to push it anymore then what it is, but she continues them longer then what it should. I have been trying to teach her on how to relax her body by closing her eyes, breathing in her nose and out her mouth, listening to everything around her, and I ask her how good it feels to relax. I do this when she is in a good mood, so when she is having a fit I can try to get her to do it. It works to a point, but then, as if something inside her wants to keep pushing the fits, she starts it up all over again.
I am at the point to where it is affecting me and my mental health as well. I'm stressed and tried, and I just want my little girl to be able to control her actions. I fear that, as time goes on, she is going to try to control me, for she is trying so hard to reach that limit. But I'm not going to let her win. I am the mother and she is my 4 year old daughter. I am the one to teach her about love, compassion, trust, happiness, truthfullness, not about angry, stress, sadness. I want her to know that negative feelings and actions are not healthly.
The question is how do I teach that when she doesn't want to listen?
There is a family history of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), stress, anxity, depression, add/adhd, and bipolar. I have all seven and my father had all but Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). So for my daughter, I fear that she has been passed some of the same genetics. I am taking care of my disorders, and I think it is time to have my daughter examined. However there is one disorder that I never knew about until today, ODD. She fits the criteria very well.
I would love to hear about some suggestions about parenting methods for children with mental health conditions.
I have found this site today because I was looking for some answers for the reason why my 4 year old daughter is well... hyper, full of tantrums, crying all the time, sometimes it feels like she's out of control.
Every since my daughter was 2 years old, I knew that she was an extermely hyper child. Everyone kept telling me that it was normal and just a stage that she is going through. However, that "stage" that she is going through is getting worse, and I feel like I'm failing as a mother.
Today has been the worst of them all. No matter what I do, she always cries, yells, and screams at me. She always talks back and doesn't listen.
I have noticed in the past couple weeks that she is extremely tired. She wakes up at 6am and will not fall asleep until 10pm. I try to have her lay down for naps or I tell her that it is quite time. She refuses. It's like her little brain is just going 50mph. I can see in her eyes that she is tired and I can tell by her actions as well, cranky, she yawns, she's winy, but never wants to sleep or rest. Bedtime is always a hasle for me. I repeatedly have to go in her room to put back in bed, she cries and tries to make up reasons why she doesn't have to go to sleep, and she'll ask me random questions about anything and eveything. Yeah she is only 4 and has alot of questions, but she doesn't stop. I've even tired to lay with her to comfort her, but all she does this try to play, then gets mad when I tell her that it is time to go to sleep.
She is at a point that she is stealing things from stores, daycare, and even grandma's house. Everytime I have caught her and always made HER return it, along with having her tell them what she had done. I tell her that stealing is bad and is against the law. However she continues to do it. She is also lying way to much, it could even be something so small and pointless.
When she has her fits, I try not to push it anymore then what it is, but she continues them longer then what it should. I have been trying to teach her on how to relax her body by closing her eyes, breathing in her nose and out her mouth, listening to everything around her, and I ask her how good it feels to relax. I do this when she is in a good mood, so when she is having a fit I can try to get her to do it. It works to a point, but then, as if something inside her wants to keep pushing the fits, she starts it up all over again.
I am at the point to where it is affecting me and my mental health as well. I'm stressed and tried, and I just want my little girl to be able to control her actions. I fear that, as time goes on, she is going to try to control me, for she is trying so hard to reach that limit. But I'm not going to let her win. I am the mother and she is my 4 year old daughter. I am the one to teach her about love, compassion, trust, happiness, truthfullness, not about angry, stress, sadness. I want her to know that negative feelings and actions are not healthly.
The question is how do I teach that when she doesn't want to listen?
There is a family history of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), stress, anxity, depression, add/adhd, and bipolar. I have all seven and my father had all but Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). So for my daughter, I fear that she has been passed some of the same genetics. I am taking care of my disorders, and I think it is time to have my daughter examined. However there is one disorder that I never knew about until today, ODD. She fits the criteria very well.
I would love to hear about some suggestions about parenting methods for children with mental health conditions.
