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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 713583" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Your son has been hanging out with low lives for a ling time. He isnt alone. Drug users on the street bond quickly. And, hate to say it, but we are not that important to them other than for what they can get from us. Personality disorders are personality problems...and these are not uncommon but those who have them are lacking in empathy and can be some of the meanest people there are. And they usually wont change. They wont admit anything needs changing about them. Its everyone elses fault!</p><p></p><p> Personality disorders are not a conventional mental illnesses that can be treated with therapy and medication. This is part of who they are. </p><p></p><p>The fact is people with antisocial personality disorder, narcicistic personality disorder and borderline personality disorder can get violent. At times they hurt and even kill. Your son sounds horrible. Sorry, but to me he sounds dangerous. You should in my opinion protect yourself from him. Do you have other children? Your other loved ones deserve a healthy you and you deserve it too.</p><p></p><p>Look, we all make choices. You can choose to stay in this darkness. Or not. Most of us have worked hard to move to a better place. Many have gone to therapy for help. Many refused to give up our lives.</p><p></p><p>You know that after all your words, taking all the abuse, and nagging your son to do better, he is not. Your son is not psychotic. He knows how he treats you.Does he ever call you to just ask how you are? To offer to mow the lawn with no strings attached? To tell you that you are loved with no strings attached?;is he nice to ANYBODY?</p><p></p><p>The hostel may be a shock to you but it isnt to a drug abuser. They are used to what you saw.</p><p></p><p>Your son IS one of them for now. Nice successful adults want nothing to do with our difficult, non working, drug abusing adult children. Why would they? Like attracts like.</p><p></p><p>I hope you chose to get therapy and detach. There is truly nothing you can do for your son. He has to do it. All of it. On his own. If he doesnt want to change, nothing will entice him to do so, lest of all nagging from Mom.</p><p></p><p>I hope you choose to cherish your own life and take big steps to improve your state of mind. You can only help you. You cant help anyone else.</p><p></p><p>Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 713583, member: 1550"] Your son has been hanging out with low lives for a ling time. He isnt alone. Drug users on the street bond quickly. And, hate to say it, but we are not that important to them other than for what they can get from us. Personality disorders are personality problems...and these are not uncommon but those who have them are lacking in empathy and can be some of the meanest people there are. And they usually wont change. They wont admit anything needs changing about them. Its everyone elses fault! Personality disorders are not a conventional mental illnesses that can be treated with therapy and medication. This is part of who they are. The fact is people with antisocial personality disorder, narcicistic personality disorder and borderline personality disorder can get violent. At times they hurt and even kill. Your son sounds horrible. Sorry, but to me he sounds dangerous. You should in my opinion protect yourself from him. Do you have other children? Your other loved ones deserve a healthy you and you deserve it too. Look, we all make choices. You can choose to stay in this darkness. Or not. Most of us have worked hard to move to a better place. Many have gone to therapy for help. Many refused to give up our lives. You know that after all your words, taking all the abuse, and nagging your son to do better, he is not. Your son is not psychotic. He knows how he treats you.Does he ever call you to just ask how you are? To offer to mow the lawn with no strings attached? To tell you that you are loved with no strings attached?;is he nice to ANYBODY? The hostel may be a shock to you but it isnt to a drug abuser. They are used to what you saw. Your son IS one of them for now. Nice successful adults want nothing to do with our difficult, non working, drug abusing adult children. Why would they? Like attracts like. I hope you chose to get therapy and detach. There is truly nothing you can do for your son. He has to do it. All of it. On his own. If he doesnt want to change, nothing will entice him to do so, lest of all nagging from Mom. I hope you choose to cherish your own life and take big steps to improve your state of mind. You can only help you. You cant help anyone else. Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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