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<blockquote data-quote="SRL" data-source="post: 20226" data-attributes="member: 701"><p>I agree about focusing on interventions for now and keeping an open mind about the diagnosis. I've rubbed shoulders with a lot of parents of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids online and I know of very few who were accepting or agreed with the the suggested Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) diagnosis at the beginning. If that's the direction they are leaning in and it doesn't make a difference in services then I'd suggest living with it for awhile, hang out on a forum specific to higher functioning Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids and see if it fits. It almost never feels like the right fit from just reading symptom lists at the beginning. </p><p></p><p>Just a few comments:</p><p>The eye contact issue is really erratic in a lot of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids. My difficult child had good eye contact until around age 3 when he became more aware of the world around him then it worsened dramatically and now has been resolved through a ton of work in that area. This is only one pattern but you might find variations such as kids making better eye contact with people they know, better with adults than other children, etc. FWIW, I've not found parents to be the best judge of eye contact in young children and I'm not sure of the reason for that. Anyway, it's important to watch for but it's not a make it or break it issue for diagnosis at this young age unless it's very severe.</p><p></p><p>I'm not saying she has Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) because there are lesser known disorders that present similarly (as well as profoundly gifted kids but those are pretty rare) but most of the traits that you are describing do fall under the umbrella of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)'s. It's the norm for these kids to have extremes in skills/abilities so that they are way ahead in some areas and delayed in others. Many-if not most-do engage in lining up behaviors during play including pattern formation and a lot have reasons (sensory, anxiety, and/or compulsions) that make them want things "just so". My difficult child used to take his Playmobil men and line them up in patterns that looked like a marching band on a field with lines and curves. And I would like a dime for every minute I've waited around for him to adjust blankets, clothing and especially jackets(!) until they feel right to him. Many are good at puzzles and other tasks that are visually oriented. The only exception I'm seeing in your written description is the ability to follow three step instructions--I'd say that's fairly uncommon in an Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) child of that age. </p><p></p><p>All parents panic at the bus thing and most kiddos handle it just fine. Often when the children are very young an aide rides along with the driver. I almost always suggest trying out the placement suggested by the school unless it's wildly inappropriate. Very few parents look at a sped class and think "Oh, that looks like the perfect environment for my 3 year old!" but a lot of them come out thinking that on the other end.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SRL, post: 20226, member: 701"] I agree about focusing on interventions for now and keeping an open mind about the diagnosis. I've rubbed shoulders with a lot of parents of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids online and I know of very few who were accepting or agreed with the the suggested Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) diagnosis at the beginning. If that's the direction they are leaning in and it doesn't make a difference in services then I'd suggest living with it for awhile, hang out on a forum specific to higher functioning Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids and see if it fits. It almost never feels like the right fit from just reading symptom lists at the beginning. Just a few comments: The eye contact issue is really erratic in a lot of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids. My difficult child had good eye contact until around age 3 when he became more aware of the world around him then it worsened dramatically and now has been resolved through a ton of work in that area. This is only one pattern but you might find variations such as kids making better eye contact with people they know, better with adults than other children, etc. FWIW, I've not found parents to be the best judge of eye contact in young children and I'm not sure of the reason for that. Anyway, it's important to watch for but it's not a make it or break it issue for diagnosis at this young age unless it's very severe. I'm not saying she has Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) because there are lesser known disorders that present similarly (as well as profoundly gifted kids but those are pretty rare) but most of the traits that you are describing do fall under the umbrella of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)'s. It's the norm for these kids to have extremes in skills/abilities so that they are way ahead in some areas and delayed in others. Many-if not most-do engage in lining up behaviors during play including pattern formation and a lot have reasons (sensory, anxiety, and/or compulsions) that make them want things "just so". My difficult child used to take his Playmobil men and line them up in patterns that looked like a marching band on a field with lines and curves. And I would like a dime for every minute I've waited around for him to adjust blankets, clothing and especially jackets(!) until they feel right to him. Many are good at puzzles and other tasks that are visually oriented. The only exception I'm seeing in your written description is the ability to follow three step instructions--I'd say that's fairly uncommon in an Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) child of that age. All parents panic at the bus thing and most kiddos handle it just fine. Often when the children are very young an aide rides along with the driver. I almost always suggest trying out the placement suggested by the school unless it's wildly inappropriate. Very few parents look at a sped class and think "Oh, that looks like the perfect environment for my 3 year old!" but a lot of them come out thinking that on the other end. [/QUOTE]
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